lots to think about, uri.
thank you.
i liked the test mashal. it made me understand what the ups and downs are about. that they're ok- something i struggle with. i'm a major perfectionist in this area.
and i definitely think Hashem led us here. otherwise we wouldn't be here. simple as that.

    Self Acceptance-Step One Continued

Self acceptance is not something that happens in a day.
It is a process.
What is self acceptance?
Self acceptance is accepting yourself fully for the way you are.This includes good and bad traits.
Self acceptance is the willingness to let yourself experience emotions,thoughts, and feelings without denial or evasion.
We can't handle seeing the "bad" in ourselves cause we don't let ourselves see the whole picture.
So we run from the negative thoughts and feelings and are really running from ourselves.
True self acceptance means accepting who you are without repression or trying to disown yourself.
That doesn't mean that you can't change who you are.
Rather, it is the only way to change who you are.

For example, you feel like going on to a certain website and doing whatever.
Someone who does not accept their emotions will say "No.This neediness is fake.I don't need.I am not gonna be restless."
What that is is self-denial. It will lead to restlessness, irritability, and discontent.
We need to accept the fact that we are needy, but understand that lust won't fill that neediness.
One must accept the true reality of their situation so they don't live in a state of inner confusion.
And then they can really begin to work on themselves.
Not to not feel those feelings anymore, but to heal those feelings.
And accept that when things happen to you,it bothers you.
Many of us as kids never let things bother us cause it would too much.
Now we can admit that certain things hurt us and continue to hurt us.

SO
Todays excercise:
Look in the mirror.
This is Uri.
He is not perfect.
He has faults.
And he has many good qualities too.
I love you Uri.

In the begining it will be really weird.
But as you do it more often and stop running away from yourself,and see your whole picture, it will get easier,iy'h.

Have a great day!
-uri

I took one look in the mirror and fled.

Please Dr. Uri Flakestein, PHD - you must help me!

guardureyes wrote on 26 Oct 2009 11:01:


I knew I heard shattering glass!

I thought it was a broken picture when a neighbor tried swatting a fly...

Uri wrote on 26 Oct 2009 10:44:

and he accuses me of being a flake
this is BY FAR the flakiest statement on this forum
and i, for one, cannot do it.

RAGE! COME BACK HERE!!!!! I'M NOT A FLAKE! IDENTITY CRISIS!!!!!!

Uri wrote on 25 Oct 2009 22:48:


Funny. I was thinking that self acceptance is not possible without humility first.
In order to be willing to accept what we really are, we've gotta get off that high horse / pedastal / rocker that we thought we were all along.

Uri, kutan never hints. He is not smart or shrewd. He is a simple ish tam.
On the forum, and also in real life.

anyway, maybe its just another chicken and egg scenario. maybe they go hand in hand.

kutan

Uri wrote on 26 Oct 2009 10:44:


ouch. very hard. actually started crying when said "she's not perfect. she has faults"
had to force myself not to stop and still say the rest
cuz that's the most important part.

I looked into the mirror and saw TrYiNg instead  :o :o :o

not kedusha. guard.
sorry  :-[

TrYiNg wrote on 26 Oct 2009 18:14:


LOL

I was sooooo waiting for one of you to say it! :D

TrYiNg wrote on 26 Oct 2009 18:14:


I resisted from saying it all day because as of yet it has been a serious thread. (How's that for self control?)But I'm still glad somebody said it. It was begging for that reply.

:D ;D :D ;D :D ;DTrYiNg wrote on 26 Oct 2009 18:14:

TrYiNg wrote on 26 Oct 2009 18:14:


OMG, i think this is for sure one of the funniest posts on the forum.
Are you tRyInG to make my sides hurt from laughter? ;D

Trying,

I thought you worked for a Joke Factory & that's were you pick up all those ultra funny stuff on the chill thread.

But I guess you got a good sense of humor yourself.

that was soooooooo funny, noch a mazel, no one was in my office or they would think i lost it.

Just wait until kedusha comes around. boy are you in trouble!

Ich Bin Dir Nisht Mekaneh!

Poor Uri,
started one of the most serious topics on the forum, and it gets hijacked with a couple of well, very good jokes.

an opportunity to accept things, I guess??

k

On third glance, it turned into guard ...
Sorry u had to edit, I was jK