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Exercise 07 Aug 2013 00:52 #215253

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I know exercise is a good thing, but a lot of people use exercise as a way of inflating their self-esteem or even making themselves look more attractive.

What should my attitude toward exercise be (like playing basektball)?

Re: Exercise 07 Aug 2013 01:00 #215259

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Only when we make our real lives sweeter than our fantasies will we reap the emotional rewards, the happiness of recovery. - AlexEliezer
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Re: Exercise 07 Aug 2013 01:40 #215264

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My attitude is that it's healthy and good for me mentally and physically.

Re: Exercise 07 Aug 2013 01:42 #215265

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inastruggle wrote:
My attitude is that it's healthy and good for me mentally and physically.

i'm with Shimshon Ina on this one
Sometimes life is like tuna with not enough mayonaise
~Inna beshem ZS

Give, Forgive
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The reason I'm acting as if I'm pregnant, is because I'm expecting. I should be accepting.
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Re: Exercise 07 Aug 2013 02:17 #215273

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“A bear, however hard he tries, grows tubby without exercise.”


― A.A. Milne, Winnie-the-Pooh

yeah yeah...

Re: Exercise 07 Aug 2013 20:08 #215326

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Years ago in yeshiva, when I spoke to the rosh yeshiva about my struggle with masturbation, the first thing he asked was, "Why don't you play basketball?" When I told him I don't really enjoy basketball, his second question was, "Why don't you exercise? Or jog?"

Just saying.
אלא יש לו לייחד כל מעשיו לשמו הגדול לבד, ולא ישתף עמו דבר אחר
That's the goal. The key to everything. Working on it, bs"d.

Re: Exercise 07 Aug 2013 21:22 #215339

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Chachaman wrote:
I know exercise is a good thing, but a lot of people use exercise as a way of inflating their self-esteem or even making themselves look more attractive.

What should my attitude toward exercise be (like playing basektball)?

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Re: Exercise 09 Aug 2013 04:21 #215558

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As long as you don't get too competitive, or start measuring your biceps, or focus too much on your performance, I (personally) don't think you should worry about what to have in mind. It's a 'non-cerebral' experience; that's what makes exercise a distinctive part of the religious experience. בכל דרכיך דעהו.

Personally, I like to use the restroom before exercising, so I can recite asher yatzar. Helps to put things in perspective beforehand. But I'm quirky like that.

As a final point, you mentioned your concern that exercise can be used to "inflate" self-esteem. It can also be used to built self-esteem in a real, torah-dik way. My rosh yeshiva was very insistent that talmidim exercise, and even built time for it into the yeshiva schedule. One of his reasons (which he shared with me) was that if a person sees that he can grow and mature physically, through exercise, he will come to realize that he can do the same with his spiritual makeup. He will come to understand his potential for change and transformation. It's not just about the health benefits, although those are important as well.

Re: Exercise 09 Aug 2013 10:48 #215576

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toraschaim wrote:

As a final point, you mentioned your concern that exercise can be used to "inflate" self-esteem. It can also be used to built self-esteem in a real, torah-dik way. My rosh yeshiva was very insistent that talmidim exercise, and even built time for it into the yeshiva schedule. One of his reasons (which he shared with me) was that if a person sees that he can grow and mature physically, through exercise, he will come to realize that he can do the same with his spiritual makeup. He will come to understand his potential for change and transformation. It's not just about the health benefits, although those are important as well.


Absolutely. I found that be very true with me.
Roy in the SA White Book noted that we frequently prayed and it did not work...because the best we could muster was begging G-d to "Please take it away, so I will not have to give it up!

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Re: Exercise 09 Aug 2013 16:15 #215605

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Doing exercise has been a crucial element in my recovery. Especially during the first few weeks in withdrawel.

Half hour walks 3/4 times a week is what does it for me.

Re: Exercise 14 Aug 2013 07:57 #216089

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Thanks everyone!
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