Welcome! Have a nice day, chaver.

(I feel like editing the above post again....hmmm....just a y"h maybe...i rarely edit at all.

My wife, bless her, unfortunately became a niddah again about 3 days after her last trip to the mikveh, so it's a month or so apart for us. Also the past week has been incredibly stressful. We moved home so it's been a week of packing and schlepping and schvitsing and stress and aggravation and being unsettled and exhausted. What didn't help was that on the day of the actual move (between me running around like a headless chicken trying to arrange movers and deliveries) my wife spent about 4 hours in Accident and Emergency for my boy who managed to choke on a sparkly toy while leaving their play group. Thank G-d he is 100% fine but it didn't help.

I am still clean despite my constant efforts to sabotage myself.

So sorry you two are having things so tough and complicated and exhausting.

It's really amazing how life actually does go on...

Maybe your wife is overly machmir on some aspects of Hilcos Nidah where there are kulos that are approved of many, many Gdolei HaPoskim. Your wife becoming a Nidah three days after her Leil Tevilah is not just frustration, but an issue that you should both discuss with a rav.

Things are ok now bH - just trying to get things settled and in order. Kids have settled quickly at least.

My wife is seeing quite heavy bleeding long before her period is due. This went on for a while after our twins were born and she switched pills which helped for a while. Not sure what is causing it

Sorry to read. Refuah shleima to your wife.

Just happened to read this morning in a sefer on Kiddush Levanah, a segula for people whose wives have very irregular cycles: To be mechaven when saying (in Kiddush Levana)
שלא ישנו את תפקידם that the Roshei taivos of that phrase is אשתי , i.e. we pray that the wife should not mess up her regularity. (This is based on the fact that a woman's monthly cycle is related to the moon's monthly cycle.)

Hatzlacha

MT

As usual, these situations like unexpected niddah, headaches, etc...are all segulos for loving our wives more honestly than we ever have before. Inspiration and good times are truly great, but pain is the only way we really grow, and difficulties are the only way we truly learn what our real priorities are.

You are living through a gift...again. If you use this one right, please don't forget to daven for me and all of us to use our own challenges better, too.

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Wow! Nice vort.