One more thing (now that I probably p.o.'d you good and fine already
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) and because you seem like a really nice guy:
'Pitying' these ladies we worship, is just a sign that we still hold them in great esteem so we need to try and deny it by putting them down. Heh. Here we are
drooling over her and dying to follow her around some more to get another precious (it is precious) look at her pretty behind or face or hair waving by...and we really think we will 'pity her'? You may want to reconsider that. She's sitting on a throne for us, with us feeling her feminine power and allure - and we really think we have a shot at looking down on her? It's a trick of the mind. It's just a way to try and deny the truth that we worship her and give our power away to her, keseider.
We
love these peoples' images, and the more pritzusdik they are dressed the more we struggle not to look - cuz they attract us so!
Instead, as I have posted many times elsewhere, we pray for them because
Hashem cares for them and loves them, too, of course. And by the way, He alone knows their true madreigo of morality. Were they raised pritzusly? Then He (as Rav Dessler explains in chelek 1 of Michtav M'Eliyahu) judges them fairly...who knows? Maybe you and I are actually on a lower relative madreigo than this goy? Yes, it is true.
And we do not pray for them to do Teshuvah (as though we are any better than they are and more holy). That would just respond to fantasy and desire with arrogance. Rather, we pray for them to be granted all the things Hashem wants us to care about people for (mefarnesin, melavin, vekovrim akum k'yisroel - Gm Gittin): food, shelter, real love and healthy relationships and all good, including health and even a good death (Gm' Brachos).
And anyhow, do you really think these pretty secretaries, nurses, and shoppers who dress pritzusdik do it because deep down inside they are tying to attract guys to desire them and get sex?! Not so. What do you think will happen if we'd smile at one of them and try patting her on the behind or propositioning her? She will slap you or me in the face and call the police! Quickly indeed will her dignity be clear...more dignity than I ever had in my acting out, to be sure.
Rather, they are just doing what they learn...as you and I are just doing what we learn - we see porn and pretty women and want to see more of them and sneak it. We discover that masturbating ourselves leads to orgasm and we want to have it again and do so, even though it is a sin - cuz we have learned that there is nothing else like it. We just do what we learn, too.
Knowledge of these things about ourselves...maybe
that's some power...maybe. If it leads us to taking
real steps toward sobriety and recovery.
Sorry for coming on so strong...but I'm cranky.