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Re: Tryin' 28 Apr 2021 15:12 #367553

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I've been off for a while. But I can attest I had my ups and downs being off gye. Sometimes this place is helpful sometimes not. But where were we on this thread? OOh yes... it was about tryin' ... 
  • I've never been one for signatures.. but sometimes people change
  • I'm seeking the life that I find manageable which may not be the life you find manageable. But let's make a deal. I want you to find yours and you want me to find mine even if they are different.

Re: Tryin' 21 May 2021 02:01 #368765

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I'm not sure exactly why, but in emails amongst some of the chevra, it was decided that there will be a call tomorrow mornin' at 10:15 EST.
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Re: Tryin' 21 May 2021 11:27 #368781

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cordnoy wrote on 21 May 2021 02:01:
I'm not sure exactly why, but in emails amongst some of the chevra, it was decided that there will be a call tomorrow mornin' at 10:15 EST.

Yes, just email me for the number please. Thank you
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Re: Tryin' 21 May 2021 11:51 #368782

What are the details of the call?

Re: Tryin' 21 May 2021 11:57 #368784

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Striving Avreich wrote on 21 May 2021 11:51:
What are the details of the call?

We talk about recovery. There will be some book readin' as well.
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Re: Tryin' 21 May 2021 15:02 #368796

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Good start, thank you.

Multiple countries and states represented.

Forming an email group to discuss some of the points and schedule next call.

Chevra
Powerlessness
Surrender
Solution
Therapy
Trauma
Emotions
Workin'
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Re: Tryin' 25 May 2021 13:07 #368968

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Good mornin'
Calls for this week:
Tuesday the 25th today - 3:30

Thursday the 27th - 9:15 - shoot the breeze (this will not be a book readin', as I will be drivin') - maybe someone will prepare a share?

Friday the 28th - 10:15

We read from white book, big (blue) book, step into action book, and we will be addin' book from Rabbi Dr. Abraham Twerski as well - God willin'.
Thank you
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Re: Tryin' 26 May 2021 19:36 #369058

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They say the call yesterday was pretty good; one fellow even called me afterwards, several emailed or texted.
  • Blue book - Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde - "Why does he behave like this? If hundreds of experiences have shown him that one drink means another debacle ...., why take that one drink? What has become of the common sense.....?"
  • White book - Tolerance - "Tolerate more of the drug or activity and get less from its use .... we remember how our lust escalated over the years." Attempted abstinence - "Some of us stopped every time we acted out!" Withdrawal - "Symptoms the addict may experience when deprived of the drug or activity. Not feedin' the hunger doesn't kill us!"
  • Step into Action - "We are drawn helplessly to lust, tradin' short-term pleasure for long-term pain, over and over again. If we permit a lust thought to remain in our heads w/o dealin' with it immediately, we begin physical, mental, spiritual, emotional and neurological changes within us. When we gave away our weakness, we began to find hope."
  • Rabbi Abraham Twerski MD - a woman is gaga over her perspective husband although he has abusive tendencies; she thinks she will change him; he becomes empowered after he acquires her.
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Re: Tryin' 26 May 2021 19:38 #369059

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Thursday - 9:15 AM - "shoot the breeze" call - no readin' - be ready to share (ouch!).

Friday - 10:15
My email: thenewme613@hotmail.com
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Re: Tryin' 27 May 2021 19:49 #369106

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cordnoy wrote on 26 May 2021 19:38:
Thursday - 9:15 AM - "shoot the breeze" call - no readin' - be ready to share (ouch!).

Friday - 10:15

Tomorrow's call - 10:15 - more book readin'.

Recap/tidbits from today's "shoot the breeze" call:
  • ​Out of isolation. The chiddushim for me are rarer and rarer these days. Pain of loneliness is definitely part of what drives me. Shaar Bitachon helps.
  • Internal clock punchers (what?)
  • Women of ill repute - it's a turnoff when you know they're after your money!
  • Orgasms
  • What makes me do it? What am I gainin'? Am I?
  • We are all in a better place.
  • Where da Hell is Una?
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Re: Tryin' 28 May 2021 15:18 #369141

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Started out slowly, but then took off B"H!
  • Blue book - Dr's letter, loss of power of choice to drink, lust; there is a solution
  • White book - H.A.L.T.; addictive process - is our drug of choice "friend" or "foe"?
  • Action book - HW - I concede that I am completely incapable of handlin' lust, as manifested etc.
  • RAJT - One episode of physical abuse is once too many; denial will not make anythin' go away.


Godspeed to all!
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Re: Tryin' 30 May 2021 11:32 #369189

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cordnoy wrote on 28 May 2021 15:18:
Started out slowly, but then took off B"H!
  • Blue book - Dr's letter, loss of power of choice to drink, lust; there is a solution
  • White book - H.A.L.T.; addictive process - is our drug of choice "friend" or "foe"?
  • Action book - HW - I concede that I am completely incapable of handlin' lust, as manifested etc.
  • RAJT - One episode of physical abuse is once too many; denial will not make anythin' go away.


Godspeed to all!

This last line is not just for abuse, it applies to anything and everything (except for people, and even then...) including lust. If anything ignoring things allows for them to grow.

You mentioned this, but I thought it deserves a honorable mention.
Check out My Thread and The Truth

(עשה רצונו כרצונך (אבות,ב:ד

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Re: Tryin' 01 Jun 2021 15:08 #369310

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Good mornin'
Call schedule for the week God-willin'
Today Tuesday - 1:15 - Homework due
Thursday the 3rd - 10:30
Friday the 4th - 10:15
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Last Edit: 01 Jun 2021 15:55 by cordnoy.

Re: Tryin' 03 Jun 2021 13:08 #369404

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cordnoy wrote on 01 Jun 2021 15:08:
Good mornin'
Call schedule for the week God-willin'
Today Tuesday - 1:15 - Homework due
Thursday the 3rd - 10:30
Friday the 4th - 10:15

Good mornin'

Call 10:30 today

Tuesday we had one live share and several via email. Always room for more.

There's a call tomorrow as well.

Movin' along......
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Re: Tryin' 04 Jun 2021 14:10 #369453

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A gutten Erev Shabbos,

My apologies; I really wanted this to work.

There are several reasons why I'm thinkin' that it isn't, and I'm not sure which is primary:
  • Things happen at work, and a schedule and closin' the door is not always the solution.
  • I am not in the correct frame of mind.
  • I can't say because of participation, and I could say. There are 3,5,7 people involved, and that's more good than not.

Bottom line, as of now, I can't.

My hesitation, however, is that there are some fellows that are really takin' this seriously, and I respect that, I crave that personally, and I don't wanna mess up that progress.

Therefore, I'm completely switchin' the model, and this may not work for some. It's on you.

Either, email or call me when you're available, and we can do step work or shmuez or read from any book - providin' that I'm available.

Or, with some advance notice, send me an email or text what time you may be available that day, and I will respond accordingly.

Godspeed to all - I do wanna do my part, so please take advantage - this is not a burden; it's what I wanna do.

Thanks

A
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Last Edit: 04 Jun 2021 14:12 by cordnoy.
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