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Guys, i need an advice fast, na! 17 Jan 2013 23:39 #201110

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So far so good, no falls since the end of August B''H, except one in the beginning of January. I work in a call center and have the best job there, B''H, i am really blessed. I don't have any work and that's what it makes the job good. I daven, i study, read and even sing out loud, the office is all mine for i am the only one who is there at night. And after my service i go to sleep. On the floor. In a sleeping bag.

But... the leadership decided to give us another project where we would actually have to work. This project is the telephone service of a website for women clothing. The clothing on this website is full with immodesty and they even have erotic underwear. As you can suppose it's not the clothes only on the pictures but female models wearing them. I visited the site as i was told but couldn't stay there for more than a few minutes. I prayed that Hashem would cancel this project but they told me it's starting on monday next week!

So my job would be to know where every cloth on the website is, what are the latest best offers and everything that would a client need to know.

Suddenly the great job that i had was ruined because of this project for women clothing. What are your thoughts guys? Please give me an advice what should i do in this situation. I want to keep my job but i want to keep my eyes and inner man more than i want the job.

THANKS in advance!
B'ahava

Re: Guys, i need an advice fast, na! 22 Jan 2013 03:51 #201196

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Don't really know too much about anything, but just a little thought that addictions kill, better to lose a job than to die.

And just to remind myself and enyone else interested, I am a very sick person, sex is more meaningfull to me than anything else in the whole side world, every day clean is a miracle.

All the best!!

Re: Guys, i need an advice fast, na! 22 Jan 2013 04:22 #201199

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I want to echo CCs advice. Dont do it.

The same way an alcoholic would be making a critical mistake if he chose to be a liquor salesman, you should not put yourself in an environment where there are opportunities to fall right in front of your face.

M2C

Eli
Roy in the SA White Book noted that we frequently prayed and it did not work...because the best we could muster was begging G-d to "Please take it away, so I will not have to give it up!

No amount of sobriety can cure the insanity -ChaimCharlie

The emmes hurts but fake chizzuk will hurt more -Bards

Remember, best block, no be there - Mr. Miyagi

Re: Guys, i need an advice fast, na! 22 Jan 2013 18:52 #201214

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speak to god have a good chat with him to help and to help u to come to the right desicon
avrohom

Re: Guys, i need an advice fast, na! 25 Jan 2013 19:44 #201405

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Thank you guys, well i told them a few days ago that i quit this job and now i am unemployed. Hashem oz l'amo yitten, Hashem yevarech et amo vashalom.

Clean days to all B''H!

Re: Guys, i need an advice fast, na! 25 Jan 2013 19:55 #201406

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Wow you are amazing!

May Hashem quickly send you something even better!
!אנא עבדא דקודשא בריך הוא

וּבְיָדְךָ כֹּחַ וּגְבוּרָה וּבְיָדְךָ לְגַדֵּל וּלְחַזֵּק לַכֹּל


"If it would be so easy there wouldn't be a GYE, but if it would be impossible there also wouldn't be a GYE."
"Sometimes a hard decision leads to an easier outcome."
- General Grant


My story: guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/111583-hello-my-friends

Re: Guys, i need an advice fast, na! 25 Jan 2013 20:31 #201407

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Waouh !!!!

You are impressive. In this Chabbat Bechalah', Midrash said that the sea opened when it saw Yossef's coffin. Yossef had the zekhout to escape the nissayon. You are like Yossef !

I'm sure H. will give you a job very soon !

Re: Guys, i need an advice fast, na! 26 Jan 2013 18:43 #201416

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Wow!
I am in awe of your ability to take such a strong action to avoid a nisayon.

We should all have such strength!

Hatzlacha Raba finding new suitable employment!
I am not big enough to not do something I WANT to do because I know it is wrong, but I've been around long enough not to want to do many things, even though they are really enticing at the first glance.

Re: Guys, i need an advice fast, na! 27 Jan 2013 02:04 #201428

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I actually cannont believe what im reading !! When I started reading the replies, I thought, guys, give him a brake, its his JOB ! He needs to live ! And then i saw your post that you quit, youve just gained a whole new level of respect in shomayim ! Im sure they are looking for a vacancy up there near yoisef hazadik to ensure you the appropriated company after 120 !

Re: Guys, i need an advice fast, na! 28 Jan 2013 10:17 #201466

as with everyone else, I was going to post that you should ask a posek, but then I read what you did. I'm a shtickle awed. I dont know if I'd have been able to do that. Like, I might have gone on the site without being paid . "Open for Me a hole the size of a needle and I will open for you a hall." I would love to hear about what amazing opportunities come your way, both those you see and those you dont. mamash, yasher koach gadol and nothing but hatzlacha!

Re: Guys, i need an advice fast, na! 28 Jan 2013 21:58 #201482

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Dmaot, kol hakavod!
wow
that was a real kiddush Hashem!
wishing you much hatzlocha and parnossa berevach
Sometimes life is like tuna with not enough mayonaise
~Inna beshem ZS

Give, Forgive
~Cordnoy

The reason I'm acting as if I'm pregnant, is because I'm expecting. I should be accepting.
~TZ

Re: Guys, i need an advice fast, na! 28 Jan 2013 23:08 #201488

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Toda raba guys... I'm sure that Hashem sees all the love in this forum and won't stand aside... I'm sure He is also in our midst going from heart to heart showing that love and care to every one in here...

Your words really touched my heart and filled it with goodness and belief that Hashem Yitbarach has good thoughts for us. As it is said in Yermiyahu "For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith H', thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end."

May Hashem help us walk, may He lead and guide us now and forever.

Re: Guys, i need an advice fast, na! 29 Jan 2013 11:55 #201505

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Amen.
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