I read the book "The first day of the rest of my life" and I found it so true. this bochur was cought acting with another bochur from other yeshiva.
This is very interesting.. Ive heard lots of cases of yeshiva bochurim developing this SS issue. But why they develp it?
Maybe is because they have a great sexual desire (for women), but because they are religious guys and its explicit in the halocha that one cannot see women, they permit themselves to see or think about men.
I think this is very common, and I think this is what happened to me.
Whenever I saw a women, I would close my eves and try not to think about her, but because I closed myself so much, the lust had to be redirected to something else.
And that is how people develop SSA. I wasnt "born" with atraction to men, I developed it.
I think this is a very serious matter that many frum guys are developing, as MBJ said,
Anyway, on to my point!
It said what was so dangerous and addictive about internet porn was that the constant variety available gives you a spike in some brain drug that makes it more pleasureable and addictive. It also said because of this the brain is constantly seeking new and more 'extreme' (as defined by the porn watcher) types of porn to recreate this high. Furthermore in the search of this high, the brain is willing to try any type, even ss porn. It does not make the person a homosexual, just the brain searching for a new way to get high.
Because we want to take out our sexual desire, we look for something else, because we know women are stricly prohibited.
Im happy we are getting to a point here.
What do you think? Is this the reason for SSA?