Kashalti wrote on 25 Oct 2012 04:19:
I had even been up to a point where i was resisting advances from people in dream (hard to believe)
It's interesting that you mention that. I've often thought about training myself for lucid dreaming so that I can make a clear decision when my mind encounters a temptation to not get involved. Often we have hirhurim about people during the day, and then our hirhurim become a dream-reality at night (which a good reason to avoid prolonging the hirhurim that we have as onsim during the day). If we can avert them well, our dream-reality people can't touch us, because we have said "NO" and determined the reality as a holy one. I find that this helps stop avoidable keri.
Any tips? Like maybe we should meditate on a mantra of "My soul is holy and you can't touch it."
Simple. Stay the heck away from your triggers.
That story took place a loooooong time ago, when I was in yeshiva spending a lot of time in the beis medrash and not much time doing anything else. There were few triggers if any
(I was still arrogant enough to be "devastated" when things didn't go the way I planned).
Yeah, here is a great tip. You think way, way, too much. You are not mart enough to be guided by your thinking in the long run. Your body will win - your emotions will win. But you insist on thinking - so much so that you are fantasizing about controlling your own dreams. This is a lust. Meheicha teisi that sperm-saving is the sole bellwether of your avodas Hashem?
If you agree, I would wager that this itself is the main reason you are struggling so much with wet dreams and the entire issue. It may not be about sexual lust at all, but about perfectionism and grandiose thinking.
Dov's point is 100% correct. Stop reading books about the Baba Sali :-p and take control of the things that you have a much better chance of controlling.
