Hi
I appreciate your concern, although I got over my fear of being "gay" and fail to see the big deal (with my new found wisdom
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I think that when they say that lust addiction can lead to SSA, the mean the following:
As lust addicts, we look for outlets for our obsession. It begins with masturbating, usually, and slowly progresses from fantasizing about real girls to fantasizing with unreal girls in pictures and videos to (sometimes) having sex with strangers or sex workers etc. As with any addiction, there is an addictive proccess:
Abstinence, Tolerance, Withdrawal.
Abstinence means we cannot imagine ourselves without our drug of choice (vodka, cocain, pot, or sex with ourselves).
Withdrawal means we suffer physical consequences when we abruptly stop using.
Tolerance (and this is the point here) means we need more quantity of our drug and more frequent use to get to the same level of high we used to get with a smaller dose.
In the case of lust addiction, we eventually wear out all excitement from heterosexual porn and fantasy and have to start resorting to other types of sexual excitement. It may mean more people involved in the act, or use of fetishes, or scenes depicting same sex individuals involved in the sex act. It may even lead one to farm animals or depitctions of violence and rape. All of this is not because the person is inherently deviant in his sexual expression but rather because we have exhausted all other methods of getting our groove on, and must resort to newer and more exciting stuff to get us going.
SO:
If we catch our lust addiction early enough and start dealing with it in appropriate ways while our high is still generated by lingerie catalogues, we will not end up searching for hours on end for that perfect man-on-man scene to get our fix some years later.
So the short of it is:
If you are not attracted to men sexually now, and you will curb your appetite for lust and self-pleasuring now, I can't imagine you'll develop a taste for it later in life.
Does that help any?
Mottel