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Re: I need help 25 Apr 2013 22:16 #205983

Machshovo Tova OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 1230 Karma: 26	Great! Do your best and let Hashem do the rest. MT

Re: I need help 25 Apr 2013 22:20 #205986

צדיק גמור OFFLINE Expert Boarder Posts: 122 Karma: 3	הצלחה רבה I wish I get this method! (no! not as result of another "acting out" ח"ו)
	I need to remember that: I'm no a bad person; I'm sick. I'm not A Choteh. I'm A Chole. It take time & effort to stay sober but it worth it. Davening to hashem to keep me sober 1 day @ a time since יום ג שבוע של יום-הכיפורים ו תשרי ה'תשע"ד 10 Sptember 2013 (and to keep this date)

Re: I need help 29 Apr 2013 20:57 #206164

gyegye2 Current streak: 12 days OFFLINE Expert Boarder Posts: 124 Karma: 0	Thank you everyone for your Chizuk
	Father, you are giving the chalenges - only if you fight it for us we can overcome it If it is good it is you! And if looks not good it is also you! If it is you it is Good! And if it is good it is again you! You You You!

Re: I need help 11 Jun 2013 00:30 #208793

gyegye2 Current streak: 12 days OFFLINE Expert Boarder Posts: 124 Karma: 0	just had a fall after 48 days last strike was 46 days
	Father, you are giving the chalenges - only if you fight it for us we can overcome it If it is good it is you! And if looks not good it is also you! If it is you it is Good! And if it is good it is again you! You You You!

Re: I need help 11 Jun 2013 00:40 #208796

gevura shebyesod
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Still better than before. Progress...

KOMT!

!אנא עבדא דקודשא בריך הוא

וּבְיָדְךָ כֹּחַ וּגְבוּרָה וּבְיָדְךָ לְגַדֵּל וּלְחַזֵּק לַכֹּל

"If it would be so easy there wouldn't be a GYE, but if it would be impossible there also wouldn't be a GYE."
"Sometimes a hard decision leads to an easier outcome."
- General Grant

My story: guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/111583-hello-my-friends

Re: I need help 11 Jun 2013 04:16 #208805

some_guy Current streak: 2975 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 320 Karma: 10	That's great! You should be proud of going so long. More importantly, you should be proud you are improving. As long as you are improving, Hashem is with you.
	My Rabbi always gives me the same advice. "Be happy. The world is good. Just be happy."

Re: I need help 11 Jun 2013 12:06 #208825

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What? Hashem is only 'with you' if one is improving?

That cannot be. For then how does anyone who is masturbating their brains out to porn or using prostitutes ever get better? But they do! Who helps them get help and get better - not Hashem?

Of course He does.

Back while I was on my knees in the bathroom excitedly and desperately masturbating myself to my porn, He was 'busy' preparing my help.

Hashem is with you, period.

It's all a question of how hard to you and I want to make it for His plan to actually work for us, that's all.

"Off the 18-wheeler and fine on this tricycle!", "I do not particularly care exactly which "lav" suicide is. I'm not interested in it for other reasons...and you are probably the same."

Re: I need help 11 Jun 2013 18:25 #208876

צדיק גמור OFFLINE Expert Boarder Posts: 122 Karma: 3	i used to think "if I'm Good I'm tzadik (& hashem is with me). if not - I'm Gamur... one of the things I've learned here is tha either way I'm sick & the Heibishter is seating @ the head of my bed... thanx Dov for the reminder
	I need to remember that: I'm no a bad person; I'm sick. I'm not A Choteh. I'm A Chole. It take time & effort to stay sober but it worth it. Davening to hashem to keep me sober 1 day @ a time since יום ג שבוע של יום-הכיפורים ו תשרי ה'תשע"ד 10 Sptember 2013 (and to keep this date)

Re: I need help 11 Jun 2013 20:51 #208908

gyegye2 Current streak: 12 days OFFLINE Expert Boarder Posts: 124 Karma: 0	I AGREE WITH Gevura Shebyesod STILL BETTER THEN BEFORE
	Father, you are giving the chalenges - only if you fight it for us we can overcome it If it is good it is you! And if looks not good it is also you! If it is you it is Good! And if it is good it is again you! You You You!

Re: I need help 11 Jun 2013 20:52 #208910

gyegye2 Current streak: 12 days OFFLINE Expert Boarder Posts: 124 Karma: 0	THANK YOU some_guy FOR YOUR CHIZUK
	Father, you are giving the chalenges - only if you fight it for us we can overcome it If it is good it is you! And if looks not good it is also you! If it is you it is Good! And if it is good it is again you! You You You!

Re: I need help 11 Jun 2013 20:55 #208912

gyegye2 Current streak: 12 days OFFLINE Expert Boarder Posts: 124 Karma: 0	THINKING ABOUT MY NEXT STEP IN THIS BATTLE
	Father, you are giving the chalenges - only if you fight it for us we can overcome it If it is good it is you! And if looks not good it is also you! If it is you it is Good! And if it is good it is again you! You You You!

Re: I need help 12 Jun 2013 23:14 #209046

some_guy Current streak: 2975 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 320 Karma: 10	Have you told your rabbi? I was resistant to telling my rabbi, but when I did I felt better than I can describe. I also had someone to talk to when I was getting depressed. If you feel like you can, talk to him. I don't want to push you into doing anything, so think about it for a while. -some_guy/Elias/Eliyahu
	My Rabbi always gives me the same advice. "Be happy. The world is good. Just be happy."

Re: I need help 13 Jun 2013 20:51 #209162

gyegye2 Current streak: 12 days OFFLINE Expert Boarder Posts: 124 Karma: 0	thank you some_guy for your suggestion... i will think of it... it will not be easy that's for sure
	Father, you are giving the chalenges - only if you fight it for us we can overcome it If it is good it is you! And if looks not good it is also you! If it is you it is Good! And if it is good it is again you! You You You!

Re: I need help 13 Jun 2013 21:12 #209166

gyegye2 Current streak: 12 days OFFLINE Expert Boarder Posts: 124 Karma: 0	believe it or not i just gave 1000$ for tzedaka as i did not do my distraction of my thaphsic method before falling last time
	Father, you are giving the chalenges - only if you fight it for us we can overcome it If it is good it is you! And if looks not good it is also you! If it is you it is Good! And if it is good it is again you! You You You!

Re: I need help 13 Jun 2013 22:30 #209196

Machshovo Tova
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Wow. Sorry to hear that. But guess what - I've been there, done that, many times. I even upped it to $3000 and then fell without even having strong triggers. So eventually I learned that no matter how large the 'knas', it will not help once I start down the slippery road to hell. The only thing that works (for me and others, and maybe for you too) is to come to the realization that we have this problem (whether it's called addiction or not) where we must avoid even the slightest sip of lust. That includes guarding the eyes as well as guarding the mind. If we start drinking even a tiny drop of lust, we will sooner or later lose control and will be doing the most embarrassing things. But if we avoid it at the onset, and just keep busy with normal life/activity instead, we can enjoy peace and tranquility, and the urges become less intense and less frequent.

Something worth thinking about, and maybe worth trying (seriously),

Hatzlacha

MT

Last Edit: 13 Jun 2013 22:31 by Machshovo Tova.