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Re: Why is this so hard for me! 20 Aug 2009 16:07 #13482

sunnycheetah84 OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 1043 Karma: 0	;D ;D ;D You just make me laugh!
	Rashi, Breishis (10:25) Last Edit: by coinguy.

Re: Why is this so hard for me! 20 Aug 2009 16:11 #13483

bardichev	U R LAFFIN I AM KRYIN MAN ALL MA WOIK DOWN DEE DRAIN
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Re: Why is this so hard for me! 20 Aug 2009 16:15 #13485

kedusha Current streak: 717 days OFFLINE Administrator Posts: 3167 Karma: 46	bardichev wrote on 20 Aug 2009 16:11: U R LAFFIN I AM KRYIN MAN ALL MA WOIK DOWN DEE DRAIN I had the same experience the other day, my dear Bardichev. I couldn't rewrite the post, but I gave the Roshei Perakim. Could you do likewise?
	Just as an alcoholic needs to avoid that first sip, a lust addict needs to avoid that first slip.Slip today? No way! ;)Fall today? No way, Jose'! Last Edit: by Guidence717.

Re: Why is this so hard for me! 20 Aug 2009 16:24 #13487

bardichev	NO IWILL DO BETTER I WILL REWRITE DOUBLE!!! BLEEE NEDDER!!
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Re: Why is this so hard for me! 20 Aug 2009 16:32 #13489

bardichev	HEY YOU LIVE IN MY NEIGHBORHOOD?? ARE YOU COMING FOR KIDDUSH ?? KISHKE OVRNITE SUSHI OOOPS I MEAN KUGEL!!! SEE YOU I DAVEN LATE KIMINHAG HACHASSIDIM OZOI VEE DEE ZAIDESS!!! GEVALDIGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG!!!!!!!!!
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Re: Why is this so hard for me! 20 Aug 2009 18:40 #13521

sunnycheetah84 OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 1043 Karma: 0	I'm going to have to follow my nose, I guess. Unless you drop some more hints.
	Rashi, Breishis (10:25) Last Edit: by josezarad1971.

Re: Why is this so hard for me! 20 Aug 2009 19:20 #13537

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GEVALDIGGGGGGGGGGGGGG!!!

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Re: Why is this so hard for me! 24 Aug 2009 15:36 #13913

MaalinBKodesh	You know Kedusha, I think sharing that Wiki article isn't a bad idea. It is surprisingly clear and informative. Thank you.
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Re: Why is this so hard for me! 24 Aug 2009 15:43 #13914

kedusha Current streak: 717 days OFFLINE Administrator Posts: 3167 Karma: 46	MaalinBKodesh wrote on 24 Aug 2009 15:36: You know Kedusha, I think sharing that Wiki article isn't a bad idea. It is surprisingly clear and informative. Thank you. My pleasure. I agree - it is one of the better Halachic articles on Wikipedia.
	Just as an alcoholic needs to avoid that first sip, a lust addict needs to avoid that first slip.Slip today? No way! ;)Fall today? No way, Jose'! Last Edit: by chugging.

Re: Why is this so hard for me! 25 Aug 2009 04:17 #14000

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bardichev wrote on 20 Aug 2009 19:20:

YOU SAID YOU LIVE NEAR ME!!!

GEVALDIGGGGGGGGGGGGGG!!!

Actually, I thought so too!

Rashi, Breishis (10:25)

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Re: Why is this so hard for me! 26 Aug 2009 09:30 #14267

Tomim2B

I'd recommend always following a humorous line with a brief and honest explanation why you can't hug a person of the opposite gender. It need not be a lengthy discourse; just enough to properly convey the point without blowing the other person off. Jokes work once. With an explanation about your values (yes, even a goy can understand this) they will respect you and be careful never to present the situation again.

There have been episodes where both Bush and Gore have outstretched their hands to Chabad Rebbetzins and the Rebbetzins did give them their hand. Instead, they kept their hands behind their back and explained that they could not shake. Both Bush and Gore understood very well what they were talking about and respected their modesty. They did not need any sweet lines. Jokes are nice, but honesty works best.

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Re: Why is this so hard for me! 26 Aug 2009 19:23 #14360

Tomim2B

Once on the "shluchim" and "handshaking" topic; I've heard an assortment of cute lines that Chabad shluchim have used to get themselves out of sticky situations. One that stands out in my mind is: "The last person who shook my hand donated $100,000.00 to Lubavitch". :D

I'm so glad that you have already seen and experienced the positive effect of being honest with people regarding this. The main point is to convey that your not hugging/shaking hands with them is nothing personal; it's a matter of your values. As you practice, you'll find something that you are comfortable with, and the whole issue will become much lighter.

Thank you for sharing your victory!

2B

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Re: Why is this so hard for me! 26 Aug 2009 20:03 #14371

the.guard Current streak: 805 days OFFLINE Moderator Posts: 6438 Karma: 138	Tomim Tzadik, if you don't mind posting under the thread instead of starting a new one... I will merge this with the thread.
	Webmaster of www.guardyoureyes.org - Maintaining Moral Purity in Today's World. We’re here on a quest ; it’s really all a test. Just do your best and G-d will do the rest. Last Edit: by WildGeese12.

Re: Why is this so hard for me! 26 Aug 2009 20:35 #14383

Tomim2B	guardureyes wrote on 26 Aug 2009 20:03: Tomim Tzadik, if you don't mind posting under the thread instead of starting a new one... I will merge this with the thread. It's a bug in the program and this happens every so often. I noticed the same with Elya's recent post too. 2B
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