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don't want it don't need it ..... 19 Sep 2011 21:57 #119528

mggsbms OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 678 Karma: 53	i've been here for some time, ups and downs, twice 120 days and once 90, but i am still falling. i need your help. i so wish i wouldnt have this struggle it is something i so don't want, i just get these cravings and not able to control myself, is it addiction who knows, got to run now hope to be posting more often.
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Re: don't want it don't need it ..... 19 Sep 2011 23:38 #119545

Jackabbey Current streak: 3 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 835 Karma: 0	you need to pull up your socks sir keep posting your situation daily we want to help you
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Re: don't want it don't need it ..... 20 Sep 2011 21:07 #119683

mggsbms OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 678 Karma: 53	today i am fine i have been so since last week, the thing with me is that when i don't have cravings it is not even a struggle its a smooth ride, it could go on for months, but if i have to fight i am a looser, the question is how do i know whats causing the ups and the downs. no real rhyme or reason nothing that i could realy point to, maybe somebody has some input.
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Re: don't want it don't need it ..... 20 Sep 2011 21:23 #119685

Jackabbey Current streak: 3 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 835 Karma: 0	everybody has to fight, that doesnt make you a looser, that makes you a winner
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Re: don't want it don't need it ..... 20 Sep 2011 21:29 #119688

hubabuba OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 423 Karma: 0	I think that a mistake you could be making is not having appropriate fences.
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Re: don't want it don't need it ..... 21 Sep 2011 01:08 #119712

tryhard OFFLINE Senior Boarder Posts: 51 Karma: 0	one trick is never to think you won no matter how long its been also remember when you are having trouble in life you need to be more careful
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Re: don't want it don't need it ..... 21 Sep 2011 01:38 #119716

Yossi.L. Current streak: 2 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 339 Karma: 0	Can you write some very specific details of your last fall. Alot of times when i write specific details things become a lot clearer.
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Re: don't want it don't need it ..... 21 Sep 2011 17:37 #119801

gibbor120 OFFLINE Platinum Boarder NEVER EVER GIVE UP! Posts: 5251 Karma: 166	It's like cancer. Just because it's in remission, doesn't mean that it's not there. Yes, It's hard to keep that in mind when things seem just fine. I can relate.
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Re: don't want it don't need it ..... 21 Sep 2011 17:55 #119802

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mgsbms wrote on 20 Sep 2011 21:07:

today i am fine i have been so since last week, the thing with me is that when i don't have cravings it is not even a struggle its a smooth ride, it could go on for months, but if i have to fight i am a looser, the question is how do i know whats causing the ups and the downs. no real rhyme or reason nothing that i could realy point to, maybe somebody has some input.

Really? Not even a struggle? No stray thoughts you need to deflect? No temptation to look at women?

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Re: don't want it don't need it ..... 21 Sep 2011 20:09 #119853

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"Really? Not even a struggle? No stray thoughts you need to deflect? No temptation to look at women?"
nothing out of the realm of normal, i would say that in the up times i am pretty careful about "shemiras einaiyim". i am in my upper thirties and this whole problem only started about three - four years ago. before that i was what you would consider very carefull, never mas.... or looked at anything unappropiate, and i mean never not even once. so in my up times i get back to my old self. i wish i could just get back there for good.......

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Re: don't want it don't need it ..... 21 Sep 2011 20:23 #119862

AlexEliezer OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 1933 Karma: 55	What have you done in the past to get yourself out of it? Raw self control, or have you tried working the steps?
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Re: don't want it don't need it ..... 21 Sep 2011 20:55 #119871

mggsbms OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 678 Karma: 53	do the steps have to be done in a group ?
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Re: don't want it don't need it ..... 21 Sep 2011 21:05 #119879

mggsbms OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 678 Karma: 53	"I think that a mistake you could be making is not having appropriate fences" i have filters, and more, to no avail.....
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Re: don't want it don't need it ..... 21 Sep 2011 21:08 #119881

mggsbms OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 678 Karma: 53	"everybody has to fight, that doesnt make you a looser, that makes you a winner" what i meant is that when it gets to a fight i lose
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Re: don't want it don't need it ..... 21 Sep 2011 21:10 #119883

AlexEliezer OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 1933 Karma: 55	mgsbms wrote on 21 Sep 2011 20:55: do the steps have to be done in a group ? B"H I have had success working the steps on my own. I know that others here have done so as well.
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