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Can Someone Please Help Me? 17 Jun 2011 05:42 #108887

  • FrumGuy613
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Hello.  I have been bothered by the following question for a very long time, and I hope someone on the forum will be able to give me an answer that will help me in my recovery.  If masturbation is such a terrible aveirah, then why is there no mitzvas lo sa'aseih against it?
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Re: Can Someone Please Help Me? 17 Jun 2011 07:05 #108889

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Hello Frumguy613,
In the gemora in Niddah 13b, Rabbi Yishmoael darshens the posuk לא תנאף from the aseres hadibros to forbid masturbation, as you can see from Rashi and Tosfos there. The drosho is brought by the Rif, the Ohr Zaruh, and the Smak. Besides that there are other droshos in Chazal as well.


Hatzlocho
The Blind Beggar is a character in Rebbe Nachman's story of the Seven Beggars.
If I view a woman as an object, I am powerless over lust, but I don't have to look.
I can guard my eyes.
I want to guard my eyes.
I do guard my eyes.
Why do I say these four lines?
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Re: Can Someone Please Help Me? 19 Jun 2011 04:11 #108992

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Thank you very much, Blind Beggar!  Hatzlachah!
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Re: Can Someone Please Help Me? 19 Jun 2011 19:52 #109045

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Forgive me for sidestepping your question, but I have a question for anyone who asks this question:

The truth now. Is the aveiro of sex with yourself what is bothering you specifically...or is it that you find yourself hopelessly drawn to doing it "yet again!" that drives you to GYE?

This really matters a lot in answering your question.

bechavod,

Dov
"Off the 18-wheeler and fine on this tricycle!", "I do not particularly care exactly which "lav" suicide is. I'm not interested in it for other reasons...and you are probably the same."
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