dov wrote on 03 May 2011 23:10:
Jew wrote on 03 May 2011 18:38:
I have been reading posts on this site everyday and it has given me tremendous chizuk and I am now 53 days clean and about 30 days without a slip thanks to those who clarified why I needed to be more cautious about slips.
I actually cant belive how far I have come. I feel a little more confident to begin posting on other posts although there are so many here who have far more expertise on this than I.
It makes all us feel great to know that there are people 'out there' who are actually benefiting from what is going on here. We forget that so easily.
Alei v'hatzlach!!
Well, it is really working! changed my marriage really, although my wife wasnt aware of the extent of my addiction she is aware that something has clicked.
I'm doing some work on triggers the last few days and noticed a post of yours where you had said that the addiction is to lust and not to women generally (hope i've not misquoted you) This i've found hard to think about because when I see a trigger, I have a whole story going on in my mind about THAT women.
I'm not asking about how to deal with the trigger, i'm dealing with this and its going well but incredidbly slowly. what i'm asking is for you to define what the difference is.
Jew
