The Library

Don't act out between breaths.

It don`t matter how your jackass got in a ditch, just get him out.

You can't speed up your recovery, but you sure can slow it down.

My best thinking got me here.

My disease is doing pushups, getting stronger--just waiting for me to slip.

An ounce of prevention is worth a gallon of relapse.

Don't go in your head alone. It's a dangerous neighborhood.

If God is your co-pilot, switch seats.

God loves you and there's nothing you can do about it.

I don't always know what God's will is for me, but I always know what it's not.

A winner is a loser who keeps trying.

Quote from SA, White Book, page 26 I see now that in all my religious striving and psychotherapy I was waiting for the miracle to happen first, that I should somehow be zapped or "fixed," unable ever to fall or be tempted again. I thought that if a person just had the rig...

Someone wrote: I don't care about my life. I just fell hard again. I could have called out for help......I CHOSE to fall all the way because it feels much better. If you're gonna fall, might as well fall all the way..... I give him so many chances and he takes the stupide...

A fellow working his 1st step wrote Dov:   I already did the whole writing. It is beautiful and very sick. I now know I am a hopeless case.   Dov Responds:   This is what they really mean when they say, "Hashem is kol yochol and can help you do anything." This is ...

I may have walked away from juicy situations a few times, but the basic and inescapable fact for me is that I have a pattern and it spirals downward. Nothing I have done has arrested it. Looking at my case in a clear way, reminds me how ridiculous it is for me to expect t...

Someone asks Dov: I had a question. What do you think about tefillah? Where does asking Hashem to cure us come in to the process of recovery? I assume you would still say that we should do/need the 12 steps... But why isn't Torah and tefilla and remorse good enough? Dov...

(VNBDI stands for "Very Nice, But Desperate Individual") VNBDI: I need help Dov: So do I. What's the deal, chaver? VNBDI: I spent a lot of time on the internet, now I'm home and am going crazy obsessed. I can't imagine why the guy with that pretty wife I looked at before...

Someone asks Dov: I am trying to understand the psychological factors in sexual acting out. I am, as far as I am aware, a popular, respected and emotionally balanced person. I grew up in an emotionally stable home and environment, and I cannot recall anything specific ...