My dear friends, I hope the point I wrote last week didn't get lost in the tumult.
My friends, I also have many, many times has those 'irresistible urges', those days when you feel that if you don't watch something really lust-filled you'll lose your mind. Please remember that it's the air in the dough! The longer we'll stay away from the garbage, the more air we'll let out of our fantasies and utter narishkeit, and the easier it will be. I see it on my own flesh. Take heart! I'm no different than you, as you can see in my post from last week. So hold strong, know that it will get easier, and KEEP ON TRUCKING!

This shabbos will be a full month clean. It's probably been four years since I had a clean streak this long (assuming I get through today lol. Going well so far, but Friday's have always been tough and I'm not taking anything for granted).
Honestly not sure how this happened, but I will keep on trucking.

Have a peaceful shabbos.

R’ Eerie,

I wish you were next to me so I can give you a hug. You’re such a special person. Your words are so beautiful. So simple. So true.

Your so not eerie! Your so loving, caring and giving.

You did not let me down. You taught me that we are all prone to falling into the YH trap, no matter what/when/how long we’ve been working on ourselves.

Strength and determination to resolve shows leadership. A leader is someone who has a following and can still admit to his followers of his mistakes – you did just that.

You are much more special to me now.

Keep on trucking,

It's almost a year since I started posting here. A year of learning from so many wonderful friends. I want to share a thought with you, my dear friends. I told this to a friend here yesterday. The YH is called "שאור שבעיסה". Why? Because sourdough takes a small clump of clay, a sticky mixture of water and flour, and it blows up to way past it's real size. Mostly using air. The YH does the same. He takes something that exists, something that we need, end he blows it, he fills it with air, he makes it look so much more important than it really is. We were created with a sex drive for a very specific reason, and yes, it's a naturally strong desire. But the YH, using the world out there as his lackeys, has created such an overblown picture, totally out of proportion, with so much air and nothingness in there. And I have been thinking about this recently, as Hashem has helped and due to good reasons my wife is off limits for a little while, and we still have some time to go, and I was so surprised that it was not bothering me! I really didn't feel anxious, denied, hungry. And so I thank you, my dear friends, and I tell those who came recently, you will see, those fantastic desires, those irresistible urges, they are the YH's concoction, and you will, beH, with work, succeed in putting a pin into his balloon, and you'll feel free
Now, if you've noticed, I used the past tense in the last few sentences. And I feel I should make an admission here. I gotta say, it's hard. In some ways harder than my first post. Because now I have a reputation here, too. What will my friends think of me? What will those who I have encouraged think, are you the guy to help me when you do things wrong yourself? But hey, here goes. I BH didn't look at the worst things out there, but was definitely מגרה ביצרי. I looked at things I know I shouldn't have, when I noticed that for some funny reason my filter let instagram through. And I see the air filling up the balloon. It's crazy how the media out there can make your YH grow.  BH, I got the filter to block it. And I klapped al cheit. And I hope to never ever do that again. But I learned that if you let the YH, he knows how to make that dough rise quickly. If we stay away, the air will slowly dissipate. And know, that what you feel is the balloon, it's not your natural desire and drive
I hope my dear friends don't feel I let them down. And if I did, please accept my repentance, and together, let's keep on trucking!

ainshumyeiush wrote on 10 Nov 2023 01:55:

There are 2 things that need to change inside your brain. 
1. YOu need to separate yourself from your desires. You are not a Pornholic or Masturbator. You are a holy YID with a holy Neshama! 
You have so much to offer, you have so many interests, so many ideas! You are a small world! Yes, you also  have a sex drive thats been a little perverted and used in instacnes where it wasnt meant to be used, BUT. THATS. NOT. YOU!!!  Practice diffusion. Look it up on the F2F Program. 
2. Once you are able to grasp this, your brain will rewire to a great extent, and  you will be able to focus more on things that you actually want in life or hobbies that are healthy and good for you and those around you. 
The feeling of panic that i MUST look at porn or i MUST masturbate is nothing but an easily refutable lie, its just your brain doing what it was used to be doing, and not knowing how to do anything different. give it time and it will get better and easier. Trust me! The less you give in now, the less you will need to fight next time, every time you give in you are making it more difficult because you are getting your brain more and more hooked. 

For the first time in your life, allow yourself to feel free, you are not bound to anything, you dont need to do what your mind is telling you to, be free to enjoy the here and now.

Have a Zise Lechtiga shabbos everyone!!

I want to scream. I want to punch the wall. Anything but turn to porn. Theres 9 billion ways to fall, and only one to stay clean. Who am i? Who do i want to be? Why am i even on this site? What do i want in life? These questions all involve the same thing, no porn. Blah. Just keep on trucking i guess.

freedom11 wrote on 31 Oct 2023 19:46:

One of the most therapeutic and helpful parts of this place is the sharing of things  that were never shared before.
You'll find that while now we may all be strangers to you - some of us here developed very strong friendships with others here - and that was a crucial  part of recovery for a great many of us.
Keep on posting , Keep on reading AND KEEP ON TRUCKING!

Chooseurname wrote on 20 Oct 2023 17:56:

I don’t know how much value there is in a phantom partner. Try a live one that you know. It works for me and can do for you too. 

Tell me, are you beyond hope if you slip up and see inappropriate stuff on your device?

I hope your answer is no. Well then in that case, a friend as a partner is a worthwhile investment 

Keep on Trucking!!

You ARE living real. It's been a pleasure speaking to such an open and truthful person. And it's special to feel how living can be more real...



Keep on trucking, my real friend. Genuine steps, genuine life....



מי האיש החפץ חיים אוהב ימים לראות טוב....



With warm admiration and encouragement,



Chaim

My dear Friend, Reb Chaim, Rosh Yeshivaseinu, granted, the clicker thing might not be for you, but the idea behind it is for everyone! The idea is to focus and realize how special each win is. And you gave yourself a 90! I mean, for heaven's sake, can you give my friend a break and give him some respect?! And I love what Grant said, what are you trying to become, an angel? The condition you are describing, has its medical definition in the term 'Living'. My friend, you are ALIVE so you feel. Now, take my kick in the pants and keep on trucking!

Hi! 5 months is great! Keep on trucking, and remember that we are here, waiting to hear from you. We care about you and we are all in this together. Please keep us posted

ILH247, 
I know that we dont know each other in real life, but i think i know you better than i know my own brother..... from reading your very deep insightful posts.... 
The human mind is the most fascinating organ in the world and the most complex. It can cause us so much pain but even more pleasure. 
I feel your pain even though i was BH never in your exact situation, i wish you all the best in your continued growth journey. 
Remember that the physical body doesnt last very long at all, its the soul that lives forever and your soul will be very thankful for doing all of this hard work now, because every time you fight back and strengthen your resolve and keep on trucking, you are growing your soul by leaps and bounds! 

Keep on growing and loving Hashem!

I love it, my friend. I'm just a mushy guy, and I got all emotional thinking of the scene you described. My friend, keep on trucking, and keep on posting!

bright wrote on 31 Aug 2023 04:07:

Get up, keep going on. You're a fighter. You're still in the ring, you can win this.
Keep on trucking. You're a good man. 

Just one point to add to all these truths.
Sometimes a person can have a feeling that "let me get the fall over with already and then start fresh". This, too, is a slick trick from that slippery guy.
Contrary to what the Yetzer wants us to believe - you can start fresh even without a fall happening. Sometimes we don't realize what happens until it's too late. And sometimes we realize, even though "still in the yellow zone" that it 'aint great. That's also a great time to start fresh.....    

Terrific! 40 Days is Yetziras HaVlad - formation and creation!

Keep On Trucking, friend!