guardyouriz wrote on 01 May 2024 20:09:

btw,  gye, accomplishes much more than the things that i have mentioned above.but even if thats all that gye has accomplished,DAYAYNU!

guardyouriz wrote on 01 May 2024 20:09:

Hi and welcome to GYE!
I'll try to address your points:

Will this program help me?
It might. If you use this program correctly, and commit to put in the effort needed, then you have strong chances. 
If You Work It, It Works!  This is the Science Behind Recovery success. 

Has it helped anyone?
You bet! There are many many people on GYE that have turned their lives around 360 degrees. You can follow and read many of these success stories here on the forum. 

Hashem is extremely proud of anyone who takes this battle seriously and makes progress in this area. Progress, not perfection.

Hi. New here.Will this program help me? Has it helped anyone? or has it just made it easier for a frum shomer Torah uMitzvos man to deal with his unmanagable guilt feelings that a frum yid experiences when he sees that he is nichshol in viewing terrible things (or for those who have acted out on serious aveiros)to deal with terrible  guilt. and to keep on trucking with their Torah and Mitzvos and help struggle with the negative feelings that prevent him from living a productive  family,social and Torah life,and continue nurturing his relationship with Hashem even though he has fallen . Im not looking for perfection ,but id like to know if i can hope to be clean not only of porn and masturbation, but also to be pure of viewing women for pleasure as well as well as fantasizing erotic thoughts. are there any sucessful members here who have reached that goal?
Thank you and hatzlacha.

Welcome to the GYE community. You posted in the right place. You wrote that you just put in a filter but since then you have new struggles of SSA, P&M and music. Did these new struggles just start this week for the first time? Without going into the little details that might be triggering, what have you been struggling with until today other than watching regular movies that brought you to GYE? There are many people on GYE who struggle or have struggled with the same things you are struggling with and you are not alone.

Don't be heartbroken that you didn't break free after 20 days on GYE. Freedom is a process and there is a lot to learn. As chooseurname wrote, I suggest that you do the Flight to Freedom program and regularly read The Battle of the Generation. Many of us have broken free and with work and education you will eventually be a free man. Read through some threads and make friends. Keep on posting and sharing and keep on trucking.

You went through so much pain and suffering and it hurts but you reached the right place. It is amazing that you shared your story which is similar to so many others on the GYE forum. Many people like you have healed through GYE and you will eventually reach freedom. I suggest that you do the Flight to Freedom program, and regularly read the book The Battle of the Generation which many people on GYE are reading. Here is the link to the ebook: https://guardyoureyes.com/ebooks/item/the-battle-of-the-generation You can also buy a hard copy on Amazon. Vulnerability and honesty are necessary for healing. Keep on posting and sharing, make friends, and keep on trucking. Rooting for you.

Welcome to the guardyoureyes community and congratulations on your first post. I don't want to disappoint you but getting married seldom resolves the issue of P&M. You don't need a high IQ to overcome the Yetzer Hora. Chazal say, who is the wise person? The one who learns from every person. We are here to support you, cheer you along on your journey and sometimes share some of our experience. Read some threads and make friends. I suggest that you do the Flight to Freedom program and read the book The Battle of the Generation on a regular basis. Here is the link to the ebook: https://guardyoureyes.com/ebooks/item/the-battle-of-the-generation Many people started out like you and today they are free men. Keep on posting and sharing and keep on trucking. Rooting for you.

hopefulposek wrote on 16 Apr 2024 18:11:

drunkin porn,
good vibes!
its all about the future

redfaced wrote on 15 Apr 2024 20:33:

Not really, just that I was really drunk so sort of viewed that I wasn't in my regular state of mind, and it wasn't actually porn. I didn't think of it as a fall at the time, but that was probably because I couldn't walk straight so wasn't thinking straight. 
Oh well it's not about the how big the bumps are but how you keep on trucking after you go over them.

hopefulposek wrote on 15 Apr 2024 20:16:

Restarting the count, but not the fight! Keep on trucking.
It's convenient you got eight days in to the new count before resetting the old - helps avoid that "oh I'm back at zero may as well fall again" feeling. 

Keep on trucking! Amazing you are able to hold on despite the stress and fear. 

Were you successful in putting on a filter? That's the number one way to avoid falling when triggered.

Welcome! Ah, what a beautiful name, Pureheart! Great ideas you have there
In Yiddish there's a saying "oifen ganav brent de hittel", which basically means that we think everyone realizes why or what we are doing. Like Shmuel said, having a filter is basic common sense, even for those that don't struggle. There's no need to 'have that conversation' about a filter. You can just say that you were inspired, want to be a good example, etc. If you have a family then you MUST put a good filter, whether you struggle or not. Just keep calm and confident and tell her you feel this is a good thing to do, a zechus for someone, etc.
And, keep on trucking!

It should get easier at some point after you reach 90 days clean but for now it can get harder sometimes. Keep doing what you are doing, tune into your struggles and as time goes on see if there are any adjustments you can make in order to succeed. Keep on posting and sharing. Keep on trucking.

Shmuu wrote on 27 Mar 2024 04:02:

By updating the daily progress chart on the dashboard and by doing the Flight to Freedom program. If you do both of them consistently you will get enough coins to purchase the Urge Surfing and SOBER recordings pretty fast. It seems that you haven't done the Flight to Freedom program. I suggest that you do it. I couldn't have broken free without it. It is also worth regularly reading The Battle of the Generation which will give you the strength to win. Here is the link to the ebook: https://guardyoureyes.com/ebooks/item/the-battle-of-the-generation

I didn't write this in my previous post but I regularly read the book, and I was reading my list of cues and appropriate responses twice a week and updating it once a week when I had s***** struggles.

It usually requires a comprehensive strategy that is acquired over time in order to break free and it isn't usually a quick fix. Give it everything you have and you will eventually succeed. Keep on posting and sharing and keep on trucking.

Yeah, sometimes people protest too much and it's really just an opportunity to chazer over. 
Focus on yesterday's win and try to move on.
Keep on trucking!

Bro you're going to hit 90 days on Purim. That's amazing and I'm very jealous. Take a minute on your mountaintop of success to pray for us all down at the bottom.  Keep on trucking!