Do not stop at go. do not collect 200. keep on trucking one mile at a time.

Ok great!

Others have come here asking for advice how to fix others, e.g. Family they messed up, but themselves wasn't in the equation

Hey, taking it minute by minute sounds like things are tough

Addicts can do with living ODAAT
Non addicts can do with whiteknuckling One Week at a time 

Keep On Trucking ;-)

Keep on trucking chaver. Keep it strong. you are a worthy person. Please share with us what you will be doing today to stay cleanfor the next 24 hours?

Thanks

lomed wrote on 07 Aug 2017 19:23:

This truck is broken

Why do you think I am a worthy person?

I am going to sleep and worry about this a different time

MayanHamisgaber wrote on 07 Aug 2017 20:06:


Wow Mayan, sounds like you're going through a really difficult time. Hopefully, the following will help a bit. It's ok if you're sleeping now, this is for when you wake up.

  מודה אני לפניך מלך חי וקיים
I am thankful before You, living & everlasting King
שהחזרת בי נשמתי בחמלה,
That you returned into me my soul, with compassion.
רבה אמונתך
Your faith (in me) is great!

When you say מודה אני in the morning, you can translate it as it's translated above. (Even if you already said it today, say it again, but slowly, with concentration.)

We all know the Hashem is the Ultimate everything. With regards to the greatness of faith, regardless of what the faith is directed at, however great anybody's faith is, Hashem's is infinitely greater.
In מודה אני, we say how Hashem(❗) has faith in us. Not just faith, but great faith❗

Now, if Hashem, who has the greatest ability for faith, if He believes in me, who am I not to believe in myself? Even if I don't believe in myself, does it really matter? The truth clearly is that I CAN do it, for if that weren't the case, Hashem wouldn't have faith in us.

Mayan, however broken your truck is, however much you consider yourself unworthy, this morning, our loving Father returned your soul to you knowing that today you will have challenges. He knows that today you're going to be tempted. He knows when & how you'll be tempted. Yet, the Master of the universe also knows how strong you are, even more than you know it. He believes that you're able to succeed today. If you don't feel that way, perhaps consider talking to Him about it.

Abba is waiting to see your success, you can do this!
It may be really difficult right now, but tell me: have you ever succeeded in the past when it was extremely difficult?

הצלחה אחי❗
If you already have God rooting for you, I seriously don't know if it makes any difference, but I'm rooting for you too!

LoTaturu wrote on 15 Aug 2017 14:59:

Tool #1 (Stopping) can be a peeling period for many, when the underlying motor is revealed, since ESC was hibernated

How does your motor look today?

KEEP ON TRUCKING ;-)

Hope4debetter wrote on 23 Aug 2017 16:54:

Sounds like you're on a roll

KEEP ON TRUCKING!!!

Markz wrote on 23 Aug 2017 17:43:

Thank you brother!!!!

bgit wrote on 13 Sep 2017 01:06:

I like this guy. 
KOP!!!

Keep On Trucking ;-)

Manessmann wrote on 24 Sep 2017 02:08:

Mazel Tov. 
Im happy for you

KEEP ON TRUCKING!!!

Welcome brother

You gotta listen more to dov. His clarity is amazing

As I understand he defines Sex Addiction simply - like any other addiction. For example Alcohol. Many people can enjoy a beer or 2. Some can get drunk on Purim and Simchas Torah and not any other time. An addict however cannot stop and once the 1st sip is downed it's downhill from there

I don't think I'm an addict. But the tools for breaking free are not 1 size fits all. Many can gain from the same meds that addicts take. For a very small minority a big Taphsic fence is sufficient. But it's not for most of us.

You're on a good road pal

Keep on Trucking ;-)

Markz wrote on 02 Oct 2017 04:02:

I agree,
thanks for the chizuk.
I would add (after being here a few years) that settings days might make it even harder.

I won't and can't give advice, I'm just doing whats good for me. 
I'm very active, I work, I'm busy, help at home, even though.....  I'm learning to deal with (out) it.
crying blaming isn't going to help, life is short and we got to keep on trucking.

wishing you all a great year.

Welcome brother

Keep us posted you're on a good road, just be careful because driving on the shoulder can wear down your tires


KEEP ON TRUCKING ;-)

Shvisi

Saying it like it is, is the way to go
"ill take credit for my self today"

Tomorrow I'll add 1 detail to the equation, Keep On Trucking till then (and on...)

ieeyc wrote on 03 Nov 2017 11:46:

I never realized much of the above. Thanks for bringing it up. Something to think about.

bear wrote on 03 Nov 2017 18:58:

Just for the record Mark never said that
The bardsviller Rebbe who Fell Shmell from the virtual world said that

tehillimzugger wrote on 17 Mar 2013 16:11:

Welcome brother

Hey slow down...
90 days isn't a program
Nor is Odaat

As cord said recently we gotta be taking action. There's no other way

Check my sig below for tried and tested ways, and you're ready to hit the road!

KEEP ON TRUCKING!!!

Gevalt!!!! I used to think exactly like you. To the point that I had a dangerous episode. My therapist after talking to me for about 15 mins (if I remember correctly- definitely the first session with this guy) says SA. The real fellowship of seeing and connecting to other people not just user names really makes a difference. If you are an addict (try the SA 20 questions or speak to someone who knows) they teach and show you how you can not control yourself and you can not blame yourself.
Regardless if you are or are not an addict Hashem loves you more than you can imagine. The 13 Middos start with Hashem Hashem the first one is the love He has for you before you did an aveira the second one is the love He has for you afterwards- I think even if it was done l'ha'achis (just to rebel against Hashem c"v). You can rest assured Hashem loves you and does not nor will He ever give up on you.
I don't think the oilem here will give up on you either. Look at R' HHM's post this is where people like us turn this is what this website is made for. Not for people who can stop for people who need help. There's nothing wrong with that. I probably need more help than you do. I happened to Baruch Hashem have found a path which seems to work for now. You will B'ezras Hashem find yours too just keep your eyes open.
Keep on trucking.
Best of luck.
Please keep posting.

Mazel Tov on reaching this milestone! Don't slow down, the journey continues. Keep on trucking!!!