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TOPIC: Men and Women's forums are now seperate 29217 Views

Re: Men and Women's forums are now seperate 17 Jan 2010 21:28 #46376

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Kollel Guy wrote on 17 Jan 2010 21:26:

Rage ATM wrote on 17 Jan 2010 21:08:

guardureyes wrote on 15 Jan 2010 11:29:


In a discussion with Reb Shlachter about how hard this split was for many gals/guys, he explained to me....



...and i wonder, why have we abandoned rabbi twerski (who sanctioned it btw) in favor of rav schlachter...
When did R' Twerski say the split was a bad idea? Do you mean the fact that he said it was ok to begin with?


I think that's what he means.
Just as an alcoholic needs to avoid that first sip, a lust addict needs to avoid that first slip.Slip today? No way! ;)Fall today? No way, Jose'!
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Re: Men and Women's forums are now seperate 17 Jan 2010 21:28 #46378

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Rage ATM wrote on 17 Jan 2010 21:08:

guardureyes wrote on 15 Jan 2010 11:29:


In a discussion with Reb Shlachter about how hard this split was for many gals/guys, he explained to me....



i support the iron curtain because of what i said before about risks versus rewards of having a joined forum BUT i dont buy this newest thing from r schlachter...in fact i am offended by the suggestion...and i wonder, why have we abandoned rabbi twerski (who sanctioned it btw) in favor of rav schlachter...im sure the good rabbi and his teddy bears and unicorns works for some people and i am not by any means insinuating that his methods dont work for certain individuals but how did he become GYE's bet din tzedek?...



I think most of the interaction was completely innocent.  However, I can still hear that it wasn't really healthy.
Just as an alcoholic needs to avoid that first sip, a lust addict needs to avoid that first slip.Slip today? No way! ;)Fall today? No way, Jose'!
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Re: Men and Women's forums are now seperate 17 Jan 2010 21:36 #46382

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Why doesnt R' Shlachter stop by and explain himself in person? We would love to discuss the issue with him.
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Re: Men and Women's forums are now seperate 17 Jan 2010 21:40 #46384

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Kedusha wrote on 17 Jan 2010 21:28:

Rage ATM wrote on 17 Jan 2010 21:08:

guardureyes wrote on 15 Jan 2010 11:29:


In a discussion with Reb Shlachter about how hard this split was for many gals/guys, he explained to me....



i support the iron curtain because of what i said before about risks versus rewards of having a joined forum BUT i dont buy this newest thing from r schlachter...in fact i am offended by the suggestion...and i wonder, why have we abandoned rabbi twerski (who sanctioned it btw) in favor of rav schlachter...im sure the good rabbi and his teddy bears and unicorns works for some people and i am not by any means insinuating that his methods dont work for certain individuals but how did he become GYE's bet din tzedek?...



I think most of the interaction was completely innocent.  However, I can still hear that it wasn't really healthy.
Am I imagining things, because I was under the impression that the interaction was only a secondary reason for the split? There is a far greater danger here at hand....
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Re: Men and Women's forums are now seperate 17 Jan 2010 21:41 #46386

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you're imagining.
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Re: Men and Women's forums are now seperate 17 Jan 2010 21:46 #46388

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Originally R' Twerski was cool with it. Something nasty happened or was said - amd Guard ain't talkin. Guard spoke to his peeps - and he ain't sayin who and did the split because of the nasty. R' Shachter is just saying sevaras. Didn't happen because Guard saw the light of the sacred unicorn. 'Cause someone crossed the line in a nasty way. End of story (and nothing to do with that machah bizness either). Sans unicorn
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Re: Men and Women's forums are now seperate 17 Jan 2010 22:20 #46393

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Pretty random how the timing of both coincided so perfectly...
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Re: Men and Women's forums are now seperate 18 Jan 2010 01:04 #46419

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Could be that even after whatever happened, it was still a tough move....but with other reasons that made sense, it made things easier.
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Re: Men and Women's forums are now seperate 18 Jan 2010 08:22 #46479

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The situation was asking for something ugly to happen.
C'mon, a jewish site for where men and women SAs can PM and exchange emails?
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Re: Men and Women's forums are now seperate 18 Jan 2010 13:39 #46518

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KG first of all that's not true. Second of all since you first signed up here Dec 7, you are giving your opinion about something you don't have a clue about. And to be quite frank it's getting annoying.
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Re: Men and Women's forums are now seperate 18 Jan 2010 14:31 #46530

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Well, Me3, since you joined the forum on August 12, 2009 . . .


I never told you how much I like you! 
Just as an alcoholic needs to avoid that first sip, a lust addict needs to avoid that first slip.Slip today? No way! ;)Fall today? No way, Jose'!
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Re: Men and Women's forums are now seperate 18 Jan 2010 14:33 #46532

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KG,

Don't take his tone personally, but Me3 is 100% correct that men and women were not allowed to communicate privately even before the recent events.
Just as an alcoholic needs to avoid that first sip, a lust addict needs to avoid that first slip.Slip today? No way! ;)Fall today? No way, Jose'!
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Re: Men and Women's forums are now seperate 18 Jan 2010 16:27 #46591

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Me3 wrote on 17 Jan 2010 15:02:

Me3 wrote on 14 Jan 2010 17:31:

In all seriousness (This would be my first serious post of the day) the one place where men and women were not separated in this site, is the 90 day chart.

There are some very important names conspiciously absent.

Habib?
Trying?
Letakain?
Yearning?

Where the heck are you?

And rage why are'nt you there either?


Rage is back up Girls where are you?


Thank you Letaiken, the rest of you girls?
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Re: Men and Women's forums are now seperate 18 Jan 2010 17:00 #46597

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Maybe they're working with R' S's mehalech? 

Actually, no matter what, I'm sure they're all living, growing, and making hashem proud.

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Re: Men and Women's forums are now seperate 18 Jan 2010 17:31 #46622

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Kedusha wrote on 18 Jan 2010 14:33:

men and women were not allowed to communicate privately even before the recent events.
Wouldn't email addresses being visible cause the same problem?
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