HashemsSoldier wrote on 11 Oct 2010 03:09:
anyone here ever heard of yosef karduner? i just went to his "concert" it was absolutely beautiful? the men and the women were seated seperatly, except i got a perfect seat to look at all the ladies
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i think that one of the hardest parts in this battle is looking at ladies on the streets or wherever, i said before that frum girls turn me on, and it was very difficult. does anyone have any advice for this? is the only advice to just push yourself to control yourself? i had a couple times that when i was looking i pushed myself away for a second but found me looking again the nest second. (that one second still counts though)
pushing away is valuable.
Learning to deflect the urge to look and instead feel close to Hashem who is saving you from the experience...
Also, coming to terms with the urge inside of you, and not letting the fact that you have this urge 'bother' you >
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, is helpful. Learning to laugh it off mentally 'there goes that nutty part of me' :
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helps to allow yourself to focus on other things instead.