yehoshua wrote on 06 Jul 2010 09:42:
it is a mitzvah to be on fire, to be passionate. Thanks for your fire,
You know, there may be different approaches for different people. One is on fire and fighting. That stopped working for me after a while, because I got exhausted at the prospect that I'd always be fighting (one day at a time).
Instead, I've been a little sneakier lately. I speak quietly and lovingly, almost whispering, to the enemy: "Dear YH: I've known you for SO long. You've been a constant companion. And I've always listened to you IN THE PAST when you say that your way is the right way for me.
But right now, I need to have a day without you. Just a short break to take care of some other business.
"If you REALLY love me, and REALLY have my best interests at heart like you've always said, then you'll OF COURSE give me a day's break. Feel free to come around tomorrow, because you know I've always been happy to see you , but I'll feel so much better if you'll go away for a day. You DO still love me, don't you? "
He's cornered. He's got to go away for the day. If he returns, I can remind him that he promised. That if he sticks around it shows that he never really loved me in the first place, so he's GOT to leave me alone for the day.
So far, ODAAT, that's been working better for me than battling an enemy far more wily than me. Just a thought.... Different approaches work for different people!
