Ok Kedusha, Congratulations on beginning your journey to sobriety, freedom and closeness to Hashem. I have added you to the "
90 Day Journey" chart. May the date "24 Iyyar" be a date you will remember your whole life as the day you began to seriously work to break this insidious addiction - once and for all!
Scientific studies have shown that it takes 90 days to change a neural thought pattern that was ingrained in the brain through addictive behaviors. (See Chizuk e-mail #320 for a Jewish source to this 90 day idea as well). That's why after 90 days, you go onto the "
Wall of Honor" Chart.
However, for this to really work, we implore you to install a strong filter on your computer and also to post on the forum about your feelings / struggles and progress. You will get a lot of Chizuk and group support, and the fact that you are now on the chart will give you an extra push. You will make many friends on the forum and they will check back to the chart to see your progress and encourage you. See also the Homepage of
www.guardureyes.com for an entire list of the tools and features on our site. Make sure to use out the tools and features on our site to their fullest potential, they are all there for YOU. I especially encourage the weekly phone conference -
see here.
Please read the
Rules Page carefully and update us according to your status.
Take heart that we are doing this all together. You are no longer alone. We all feel your struggle and will help you pull through IY"H.
Take it one day at a time. Say to yourself "Just for today, I will stay clean". Tomorrow is anyway not in your hands, why worry about it?
Remember, the Yetzer Hara wants your soul, not the pleasure. Otherwise, why is a thousand times never enough for him. Remember this saying. "Just once is always too much. A thousand times is never enough".
Let Hashem fight this battle for you. Give over the addiction to him every day. Tell him you can't do it alone. Hashem has been waiting all this time, NOW IS THE TIME.
Also, the more distance you put between you and the addiction, the easier it gets. See
here for more on this.
May Hashem be with you!