If I make bad choices for most of my day I must be a bad person.
We are defined by the choices we make.
Right and wrong. We are defined by the choices
WE make but not by the choices our addiction makes.
Theres always another way of looking at things. Ill give you an example. Someone once asked me if there is a hashkafic reason noto go on birth control. I told him; i dont know if there is an hashkafic reason or a halachic reason but what i do know is this. There are people out there that are willing to give up the world pay all the money in the world do whatevr it takes to hold their own child in their hands and you who has the chance to have that are gonna just throw it away cuz your not interested in the inconvieneince right now. It was a little more than that but that was the point. He walked away saying to me i never looked at it that way.
Now point being. There are people who are still looking for that wife/husband. Dying to have cute kids. Will do anything to have someone serve them shnitzel for supper. So your lucky. And feel good cuz your lucky. Think about , although you have so many hard times during the day, whats waiting for you at home. Everyone knows thers nothing like a child looking up at you and smiling, especially when that child is yours.