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Re: bardichev's battle 07 Nov 2009 20:39 #27230

7yipol Current streak: 3 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder YES HE CAN! Posts: 4686 Karma: 12	guardureyes wrote on 07 Nov 2009 16:34: More good news.... There's a new guy on the forum called "cry2tatty"... Someone you missed, Bardy A flake in doc martins who loves brownies with oregano
	Hashem is addicted to you! Feel His hugs!"Sheva yipol tzaddik VKUM" Last Edit: by blazk.

Re: bardichev's battle 07 Nov 2009 21:23 #27233

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Hi Bardichev-

Mazel Tov on all of your accomplishments!

I'm just a little confused here. You mentioned in one of your earlier posts that you had stopped your "bitul zman" on the Internet.

I thought this forum was about shmirat habrit?

Heck, I waste tons of time on the Internet. Yeah, I should be learning or maybe working more or something - but I don't look at anything that would tempt me, and I'm still shomer brit.

So what is the goal? If I'm shomer brit but I still waste time online, can I be part of the 90 day chart.

I hope so. Just watching my screen name go further up on the chart gives me a lot of chizuk. Even though I'm anonymous, I would be too embarassed to "fall" in front of you guys, and I would never lie to you either, so once or twice in my short 11 day journey so far, that thought kept me from going to the wrong sites.

Last Edit: by LENNY.

Re: bardichev's battle 07 Nov 2009 22:22 #27240

the.guard Current streak: 805 days OFFLINE Moderator Posts: 6438 Karma: 138	Dear withgdshelp, I'm confused. Here you write: I don't look at anything that would tempt me, and I'm still shomer brit. But in another thread you wrote: A sin is a sin and I'm done sinning. So can you please explain. Do you or don't you struggle with prn and Mast? I just want to understand your situation so we can help you better...
	Webmaster of www.guardyoureyes.org - Maintaining Moral Purity in Today's World. We’re here on a quest ; it’s really all a test. Just do your best and G-d will do the rest. Last Edit: by umbrella.

Re: bardichev's battle 08 Nov 2009 03:16 #27245

sunnycheetah84 OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 1043 Karma: 0	Guard, I have a question I've been meaning to ask for a while. Everyone seems to stick in * or two in certain words that begin with p or m. I think its nice, it shows a sensitivity etc. But why does the main screen of the forum have these things spelled out? k
	Rashi, Breishis (10:25) Last Edit: by Heeling.

Re: bardichev's battle 08 Nov 2009 04:43 #27247

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Hi GuardUrEyes,

It's like any other lo taaseh. Sometimes I have a craving for treif food, or a craving to break shabbat. Thank G-d, I haven't done either of those things in many years.

Sometimes I also have a craving to waste seed. I did that a few times recently. I decided to stop, so I stopped.

That's why I said I wasn't sure if I was addicted. I grew up secular, I had years of open access to pornography. Honestly, that stuff doesn't turn me on anymore - it never really did. We looked at it as teenagers constantly - because we were curious about the female body. Now, I feel horrible that one of Hashem's creations would use her body in such a disgusting manner. All the more so if any of them are Jews, G-d forbid.

There are other things online that would even be considered "kosher videos" by many people that can pose a problem for me. I'm not even sure that your filter would block them.

By admitting my sin here, and keeping track of it on the chart, I have very few cravings anymore. It has helped a ton.

I realize that wasting time can lead to wasting seed - but it's not the same thing. Maybe after I've gone 90 days without wasting seed, I can try to stop watching mindless (but kosher) stuff online, and learn Torah every waking second that I'm not working or spending with my family.

I just wanted to understand the goals here. I don't want to be credited (even anonymously) with "no bitul zman" when I am m'vatel lots of zman at this point in my life.

Last Edit: by Bat_Melech.

Re: bardichev's battle 08 Nov 2009 19:41 #27307

the.guard Current streak: 805 days OFFLINE Moderator Posts: 6438 Karma: 138	But why does the main screen of the forum have these things spelled out? Kidei Sheyishalu Hakatun...
	Webmaster of www.guardyoureyes.org - Maintaining Moral Purity in Today's World. We’re here on a quest ; it’s really all a test. Just do your best and G-d will do the rest. Last Edit: by Tzemach.

Re: bardichev's battle 08 Nov 2009 20:35 #27314

kedusha Current streak: 717 days OFFLINE Administrator Posts: 3167 Karma: 46	Dear WGH, One can technically waste a lot of time online without it being considered a "slip" or a "fall." Bardichev set higher goals for himself than that.
	Just as an alcoholic needs to avoid that first sip, a lust addict needs to avoid that first slip.Slip today? No way! ;)Fall today? No way, Jose'! Last Edit: by 212dave.

Re: bardichev's battle 08 Nov 2009 20:37 #27315

kedusha Current streak: 717 days OFFLINE Administrator Posts: 3167 Karma: 46	kutan shel hachabura wrote on 08 Nov 2009 03:16: Guard, I have a question I've been meaning to ask for a while. Everyone seems to stick in * or two in certain words that begin with p or m. I think its nice, it shows a sensitivity etc. But why does the main screen of the forum have these things spelled out? k I think it's simply a desire to speak b'Lashon Nekiah when possible.
	Just as an alcoholic needs to avoid that first sip, a lust addict needs to avoid that first slip.Slip today? No way! ;)Fall today? No way, Jose'! Last Edit: by HoosierGoy.

Re: bardichev's battle 08 Nov 2009 20:42 #27317

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I realize that wasting time can lead to wasting seed - but it's not the same thing.

Sounds like our Kosher Isle is just for you! To keep yourself busy away from the computer is best. See this page for some ideas... However, not always can we get away from the computer. If you want to use your time wisely on-line, see this page. And for the times you feel you just want to kill time by the computer (and that is where the aveiros usually happen), see this page instead... Besides for all the great Kosher news sites there, you can scroll down for a host of great Kosher sites with hundreds of cute and entertaining videos clips and such... This can help you when you can't resist wasting time - and you're stuck by the computer!

Webmaster of www.guardyoureyes.org - Maintaining Moral Purity in Today's World. We’re here on a quest ; it’s really all a test. Just do your best and G-d will do the rest.

Last Edit: by Klonny2020.

Re: bardichev's battle 11 Nov 2009 14:01 #27618

sunnycheetah84 OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 1043 Karma: 0	guardureyes wrote on 08 Nov 2009 19:41: But why does the main screen of the forum have these things spelled out? Kidei Sheyishalu Hakatun... People associate me with the Pesach seder too much. A goat is just fine, you know. No need to use a lamb.
	Rashi, Breishis (10:25) Last Edit: by Charles1132w.

Re: bardichev's battle 11 Nov 2009 17:56 #27676

Dov OFFLINE Administrator Posts: 1960 Karma: 383	baaa-aa-aa-aa-aaaa-a.
	"Off the 18-wheeler and fine on this tricycle!", "I do not particularly care exactly which "lav" suicide is. I'm not interested in it for other reasons...and you are probably the same." Last Edit: by Edstafford.

Re: bardichev's battle 11 Nov 2009 19:53 #27706

7yipol Current streak: 3 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder YES HE CAN! Posts: 4686 Karma: 12	Maaaaa-aa-aa-aaaaa
	Hashem is addicted to you! Feel His hugs!"Sheva yipol tzaddik VKUM" Last Edit: by TryingH.

Re: bardichev's battle 11 Nov 2009 20:03 #27711

Hoping Current streak: 361 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 202 Karma: 0	A belated MAZAL TOV to Bardichev!
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Re: bardichev's battle 11 Nov 2009 20:12 #27712

bardichev	hoping wrote on 11 Nov 2009 20:03: A belated MAZAL TOV to Bardichev! i really appreciATE ALL THE GOOD WISHES!! ALL I CAN SAY IS IM YIRTZEH HASHEM BY ALL OF YOU OIF SIMCHOS!!!
	Last Edit: by Nmaj.

Re: bardichev's battle 11 Nov 2009 21:02 #27740

7yipol Current streak: 3 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder YES HE CAN! Posts: 4686 Karma: 12	bardichev wrote on 11 Nov 2009 20:12: hoping wrote on 11 Nov 2009 20:03: A belated MAZAL TOV to Bardichev! i really appreciATE ALL THE GOOD WISHES!! ALL I CAN SAY IS IM YIRTZEH HASHEM BY ALL OF YOU OIF SIMCHOS!!! Oif simchos? Whats chicken have to do with it?!
	Hashem is addicted to you! Feel His hugs!"Sheva yipol tzaddik VKUM" Last Edit: by Zelig20.