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Let's open a Bachurim only thread for once and for all!!

I'll be very honest. I thought the whole time that Holy Ari isn't married and it gave me a sense of feeling that on some level Im in this with a partner, even though we never spoke.

Now I feel like there is no other bachur on this platform with 50+ days. I need chizzuk emergency!

I'm looking for someone in a similar situation as me who has plowed through 50+ days who I can watch and climb together to see that it is possible!

Is it possible?!?

I had an 89-day streak and the first 40 days of my current streak before my hormones became too low and I stopped having urges. It was easier for me that I was separated from my wife during this time than had I been living with her because we weren't on good terms. I think I would of eventually ended up where I am today even if my hormones were at regular levels. You really don't need a wife in order to become clean. It may be harder for bachurim because they don't have the insight of someone who was married. They can have stronger fantasies, imagining things that don't exist in the real word. In any case, stay strong because you can do it. Sorry for writing as a divorced man on a bachurim only thread.

FINALLY!!!

Ive been commenting on your post multiple times, but y seem to have missed it.
I am a Bachur, and I totally agree, the struggle while similar is very different for married and singles, waiting for you to hmu.

LETS GO

Hold up. Stop crying that you lost your imaginary ‘partner in crime.’ Bro, if your entire climb was hanging on HolyAri’s marital status, then you weren’t climbing at all — you were hitchhiking on his back. Newsflash: the Yetzer doesn’t care if HolyAri is married, single, or living on Mars. He only cares if YOU fold. And right now, you’re giving him a front-row comedy show.

So quit the pity party. You’re not the only one, you’re not special, and you don’t need a babysitter to prove it’s possible. HolyAri’s status didn’t give you your backbone, and it can’t take it away. You’re living proof already. 57 days = you’re already the ‘guy I wish I could watch.’

Now keep pushing, because the Yetzer Hara is laughing every time you whine. Show him who owns the battlefield — and let him choke on his own lies while you march toward 100!!

Yosefthetzaddik it is definitely possible, I went almost 100 days clean and I am currently almost at 30. We got this!

You guys dont get it. I know it is possible. Jewizard is my living proof.

It's just kinda scary for me to think that I'm the only bachur on this entire platform in my day range! I need some of you guys to step up and take it to the next level ASAP.

No more 20 day streaks! We're all going to 90 and then to 1000 together!!! Of course only ODAAT, because otherwise you're just giving the YH free bait.

The point of this thread is that the Bachurim should have a separate hangout, where they can get support. 

Instead of me going Forum hunting and comenting on every Bachur's thread. All the Bachurim should gather on this thread. Leave a comment. Introduce yourself. Shep chizzuk, give chizzuk. 

Maybe we should ask the admadmin to open a Bachurim only section.

I happen to find myself in full agreement with you—though I must add a measured but.

Remember this well: a single man contends with the very same Yetzer Hara as a married one, and the Ribbono Shel Olam will never place upon you a nisayon beyond your strength to overcome.

And Yosef—you, of all people! You’re not some timid soul easily shaken; you’ve built a name, a presence, a reputation. People already look at you as a force, as someone who makes things happen. So why not let this very trial become your crown? If no bochur has ever made it through before, that’s not a deterrent—that’s the invitation. The first trailblazer, the one everyone points to and says: He did it. He showed us it can be done.

This isn’t just a struggle; it’s your stage. Use it, Yosef. Prove to the world—and to yourself—that the impossible bends before you.

And I always thought @yosefthetzadik was married.....

Hi guys I just wanted to report that I had very strong urges tonight for the first time in a while and bh I was able to ride the wave and not give in. I hope everyone has an amazing shabbos

I just was clean for 3 and a half months bh, 2 of the months I was dating. Then came the breakup that was hard, together with the adjustments of a new year job, it was a rough sad week, then at end up the week I gave into temptation, and now I’m 3 days straight giving into my urges. I honestly just need help feeling normal, I just carry so much shame when I fall. Also some help to get back up and control myself.

3.5 months?? I wanna be your friend!!