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90 Days-Be"H, But I can't do it w/o YOU by my side
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Re: 90 Days-Be"H, But I can't do it w/o YOU by my side 23 Jul 2025 18:47 #439330

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Maybe a little, but also a fear for the next time...

Re: 90 Days-Be"H, But I can't do it w/o YOU by my side 23 Jul 2025 18:59 #439331

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It will be hard to appreciate success in the shadow of fears of future failures that haven't happened. You will deal with the next thing when it comes. For now, let yourself be present in the moment of succeeding against a powerful yetzer hara and appreciate what that accomplishment means. Feeling good is a powerful tool in fighting this battle with a healthy approach long-term.

Have you taken a look at the book The Battle of the Generation?
Today is yesterday's tomorrow.
The yetzarim a person has the most trouble dealing with are his most powerful God-given tools for developing his potential and achieving shleimus.
It doesn't matter how big the number is, only that today it is going up by one.
There is no "just" when it comes to lust.

Please feel free to reach out. I'd appreciate connecting with you via GYE, Gmail (same as my username), or phone - whatever floats your boat.
A little about me: guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/412971-I-Want-to-Help-Others

Re: 90 Days-Be"H, But I can't do it w/o YOU by my side 27 Jul 2025 14:44 #439467

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Day 14!
Thx everyone who has responded here so far, I really appreciate the connections and Chizuk.
Keep 'em coming!

Re: 90 Days-Be"H, But I can't do it w/o YOU by my side 27 Jul 2025 14:45 #439468

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BenHashemBH wrote on 23 Jul 2025 18:59:
It will be hard to appreciate success in the shadow of fears of future failures that haven't happened. You will deal with the next thing when it comes. For now, let yourself be present in the moment of succeeding against a powerful yetzer hara and appreciate what that accomplishment means. Feeling good is a powerful tool in fighting this battle with a healthy approach long-term.

Have you taken a look at the book The Battle of the Generation?

Well said.

Yes, I am in the middle of the book.

Re: 90 Days-Be"H, But I can't do it w/o YOU by my side 30 Jul 2025 14:07 #439639

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Good morning Oilam!
Day 17, still fighting.

Re: 90 Days-Be"H, But I can't do it w/o YOU by my side 30 Jul 2025 17:11 #439659

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This hit deep. The honesty, the back-and-forth—you put real words to the struggle.

Just know: Me A might never fully go away, but Me B gets stronger every time you say no. You’re not failing—you’re training. And each night you win, you’re rewriting everything.

Keep climbing, brother. You’re not alone. Day 17!!! That's a rock! day 18 is already proud of you.

Fuel me with Chizuk—ideas, encouragement, or just a kind word.
Arihakadosh24@gmail.com ~ 845-459-5843
Friends are my anchor; you are my lifeline.

Re: 90 Days-Be"H, But I can't do it w/o YOU by my side 01 Aug 2025 13:02 #439780

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Day 19!
Looking forward to a Kedusha filled Shabbos.
Not without some Nisyonos, but as the GYE email so eloquently pointed out: It's ok, normal, and expected to have thoughts and desires of acting out, but I have the choice to say "no" to those thoughts of the YH. I won't act on those thoughts, even though it's uncomfortable and not fun in the moment, that doesn't mean I have to do it, and I don't even have to get rid of those thoughts, I can just not listen to them. It's way worth it in the long run, and it's what the real me wants!

Your hopeful friend, Mesayinoso.

Re: 90 Days-Be"H, But I can't do it w/o YOU by my side 04 Aug 2025 16:19 #439867

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Day 22!
Going strong but still struggling with feeling like I'm "Missing out" instead of feeling free.
Any books/shiurim/vids that this Oilam of tzaddikim could recommend? (Besides TBOTG)

Re: 90 Days-Be"H, But I can't do it w/o YOU by my side 04 Aug 2025 18:20 #439873

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For me it helps to look beyond the glitz and think about what a relationship with the object of my fantasy would be like...yuck! And then what...it's just the sex act? 

I really like the recorded shiurim of R' Avigdor Miller on Chovos HaLevavos. Costs money though...

Re: 90 Days-Be"H, But I can't do it w/o YOU by my side 04 Aug 2025 18:52 #439882

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mesayinoso wrote on 04 Aug 2025 16:19:
Day 22!
Going strong but still struggling with feeling like I'm "Missing out" instead of feeling free.
Any books/shiurim/vids that this Oilam of tzaddikim could recommend? (Besides TBOTG)

Try talking it out with some chevra
vehkam7@gmail.com

guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/375452-Work-in-progress

The Battle of the Generation by Hillel S. has been a huge help for me.  Message me to find out how you can receive a free copy.



some of the experiences I write about may make it easier to identify me.  This is ok.  I trust that if anyone discovers my identity they will keep it to themselves.  If you do realize that you  know me, I am completely comfortable and welcome you acknowledging me and my struggle in person.

Re: 90 Days-Be"H, But I can't do it w/o YOU by my side 08 Aug 2025 16:14 #440108

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Day 26!!!
BH!!

Re: 90 Days-Be"H, But I can't do it w/o YOU by my side 10 Aug 2025 18:56 #440150

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27 days, then fell yesterday... P and M.
So annoying, but spoke to my mentor and getting back on track IYH.

Re: 90 Days-Be"H, But I can't do it w/o YOU by my side 15 Aug 2025 16:05 #440417

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Let's do this again!
Day 5 BH

Re: 90 Days-Be"H, But I can't do it w/o YOU by my side 15 Aug 2025 20:02 #440425

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Keep it up! We're rooting for you!
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