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The challenge 09 Jan 2024 01:05 #406659

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Hi this is my first post here and I wanted to say that I have been struggling with pornography for quite some time now,and I have tried basically everything.But I will keep trying and use every tool on this website and everything I learned from the past to achieve 90 days. I also wanted to ask if I hashem has a wife for everyone, why doesn't he just give it to the person when he is suitable age, why does a person have to look and go through the trouble of finding a spouse. And also why is it important to stop this addiction before marriage?

Re: The challenge 09 Jan 2024 01:14 #406662

ainshumyeiush Current streak: 2 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 311 Karma: 26	Welcome!!!
	"Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm" - Winston Churchill Curiosity kills the count guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/401159-This-time-for-real?limit=15&start=15#401727 feel free to get in touch ainshumyeiush@gmail.com

Re: The challenge 09 Jan 2024 03:17 #406668

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Dear Brother,

Welcome to GYE and kudos to you for that commitment to work through this challenge.

I don’t have an answer to your first Q, nor will I answer your second Q directly…who has ever told its more important to stop this addiction before or after marriage? I never heard someone saying that, all I can tell you is that marriage doesn’t solve the problem so we gotta start working on yourselves NOW! Married or not.

Stick around brother, there’s a lot to learn.

You can win the fight, but I'll have to live with the loser.

Any excuse you use for yourself, you must be willing to use for your wife.

Not Always can I understand others, but I can always respect their wishes.

You're human, it's okay.

One half of the world cannot understand the pleasures of the other.

Last Edit: 09 Jan 2024 14:24 by Heeling.

Re: The challenge 09 Jan 2024 03:43 #406669

redfaced Current streak: 581 days NOW ONLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 1161 Karma: 57	Having this issue while married has lots of potential for ruining a marriage . Most addictions can ruin a marriage . This one probably more so, being of such a sensitive nature.
	May you slide down the banister of happiness and get many splinters of success up your career Feel free to send me an owl, a howler, or even a Crumple-Horned Snorkack to Iamredfaced@gmail.com The Red Face

Re: The challenge 09 Jan 2024 08:09 #406682

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Welcome!

I can only share from my experience... Although I've been struggling for years prior to marriage, once I got married my struggle became amplified greatly. I started comparing notes to those around me, what I was missing in my marriage that others had etc. Ridding yourself of it before marriage can help you build a healthy genuine relationship, not one with a separation of your mind and heart.

Keep sharing and learning!

Great to have you with us!

- Little Yiftach'l

Looking forward to get to know you better!

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Re: The challenge 09 Jan 2024 12:21 #406684

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Re: The challenge 09 Jan 2024 12:52 #406688

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Hi and Welcome!

I'm sorry to hear that you are having a hard time dating. I feel for you and wish you a yeshua bekarov!

What will be when you reach 90 days? meaning 90 days is not a goal rather a means to an end, You might want to focus more on discovering what pornography does to you and why you want to quit.... Sorry that I can't elaborate now my time is limited but just wanted to give you some food for thought.

Hatzlacha!
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