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Scientific studies show that it takes 90 days to break an addictive pattern in the mind. Start your own Log of your journey to 90 days! Post here to update us on your status and to give each other chizuk to stay strong!

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90 day goal 25 Dec 2022 20:27 #389996

shabbos-is-the-best
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Hi there,

I've been on GYE for a while and I've read many different threads. It's inspiring to see many people fighting this battle.

I'm single and in my mid-20's and I struggle with consuming sexual content from the internet every so often. I've had techniques which have worked in the past to get me through long stretches of being clean. These techniques have included installing filters and accountability software, putting money away until I reach a certain goal, or speaking with a rebbi / therapist about the struggle.

The reason I'm posting today is to have accountability with real (anonymous) people as an additional motivation. I'm interested to reach 90 days (and more) clean.

I'm starting from day 1 today, and I'm setting a goal for the next 7 days to not masturbate or consume sexual content (i.e. porn, pictures, movie sex-scenes) from the internet.

Wish me luck

Last Edit: 25 Dec 2022 20:36 by shabbos-is-the-best.

Re: Hello 25 Dec 2022 20:32 #389997

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Hi! Welcome! We're all rooting for you! Sounds like you've gone through many useful methods of stopping. Please Check out the toolbox tab for some other interesting techniques. Hatzlacha!

Off the forum for now.
My Thread (Not for inspiration, but for random bits and pieces of my journey, as well as the inspiring responses of others: guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/375514-Enough-is-Enough
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Re: 90 day goal 26 Dec 2022 22:12 #390056

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Welcome! we are happy you decided to join!

I'm sick of the Un-scientific approach of today's medical and social environment.
we will never heal and become a better society unless we realize that all people are addicts. Any thing we do that we aren't interested in is "addiction" and medicine doesn't fix addictions.

Pain causes addiction and medicine cant fix pain.

Unless we heal our pain, and become truama conscious so as not to cause others pain, we will never be living in a functioning human society.

Re: 90 day goal 29 Dec 2022 15:27 #390258

shabbos-is-the-best Current streak: 10 days OFFLINE Fresh Boarder Posts: 5 Karma: 0	Accountability post. Bh 4 days clean

Re: 90 day goal 29 Dec 2022 16:55 #390267

eerie Current streak: 853 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 1602	Keep it up my friend! You are an inspiration to us all!
	Feel free to say hi. My email is 1gimpelovitz@gmail.com

Re: 90 day goal 01 Jan 2023 18:18 #390396

shabbos-is-the-best Current streak: 10 days OFFLINE Fresh Boarder Posts: 5 Karma: 0	Bh clean for 7 days, and hope to keep going! I'm looking for tips and encouragement to stay motivated because based on past experiences I usually have a fall every few weeks..

Re: 90 day goal 01 Jan 2023 19:45 #390399

eerie Current streak: 853 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 1602	Advice I learned from Vehkam: read a piece of "the battle of the generation" (or a similar book that provides inspiration and tips for this battle)every day. It will help from becoming complacent. Keep trucking my friend!
	Feel free to say hi. My email is 1gimpelovitz@gmail.com Last Edit: 01 Jan 2023 19:46 by eerie.

Re: 90 day goal 01 Jan 2023 19:51 #390401

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shabbos-is-the-best wrote on 01 Jan 2023 18:18:

Bh clean for 7 days, and hope to keep going!

I'm looking for tips and encouragement to stay motivated because based on past experiences I usually have a fall every few weeks..

Seven days is a significant win! You can read the recovery stories on this site to see that many people have successfully broken free of these behaviors. We must truly want to break free of this Mitzrayim. Chazal say that those who didn’t want to leave Mitzrayim died in the plague of darkness. Already at the outset of our journey, we must be determined that we will never give up and always keep trying, no matter what. R' Tzadok HaKohen of Lublin writes (Tzidkas Hatzadik 154): "Just as one must believe in Hashem, so too, one must believe in himself!" Hashem wants us to BELIEVE in our strengths, our capabilities, and in our ability to overcome evil and achieve greatness. Although we might feel stuck, determination is completely up to us. The trick to ultimate success is only to want enough.

"If I am not for myself, who will be for me? But if I am only for myself, who am I? If not now, when?"
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Re: 90 day goal 06 Jan 2023 16:49 #390618

shabbos-is-the-best Current streak: 10 days OFFLINE Fresh Boarder Posts: 5 Karma: 0	Accountability post: 12 days clean. Thank you everyone following my thread. It gives me encouragement to keep going. Wishing everyone a good shabbos!

Re: 90 day goal 06 Jan 2023 21:02 #390623

eerie Current streak: 853 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 1602	keep going strong, my holy friend! have a wonderful, holy Shabbos!
	Feel free to say hi. My email is 1gimpelovitz@gmail.com

Re: 90 day goal 08 Jan 2023 12:22 #390643

Hashem Help Me Current streak: 2918 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 4067	Welcome. Keep inspiring the chevra here. Stay connected for accountability.
	Feel free to contact me at michelgelner@gmail.com My threads: Lessons Learned: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/335248-Lessons-Learned My Story and G-d Bless GYE: guardyoureyes.com/forum/17-Balei-Battims-Forum/303036-My-story-and-G-d-bless-GYE

Re: 90 day goal 16 Jan 2023 05:35 #390903

shabbos-is-the-best Current streak: 10 days OFFLINE Fresh Boarder Posts: 5 Karma: 0	21 days clean. Bh

Re: 90 day goal 16 Jan 2023 15:04 #390909

ytw Current streak: 5 days OFFLINE Senior Boarder Posts: 44 Karma: 3	wow, that's 3 weeks clean. amazing, keep it up buddy.
	YES! I AM A PROUD SPIRITUAL CANARY!!! a must listen for each and every addict. https://www.torahanytime.com/#/lectures?v=181779 feel free to comment on this lecture here. Watch the daily Vayemaen videos here.

Re: 90 day goal 23 Jul 2023 02:37 #399063

redfaced Current streak: 581 days NOW ONLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 1161 Karma: 57	How you doing?
	May you slide down the banister of happiness and get many splinters of success up your career Feel free to send me an owl, a howler, or even a Crumple-Horned Snorkack to Iamredfaced@gmail.com The Red Face