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EYES NEED KEDUSHA 22 Nov 2021 22:52 #374503

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My goal is to guard my eyes and not look at inappropriate things on the computer web ( I do not watch porn). Unfortunately, I search for girls that used to be in my grade or celebrities from the time I used to watch porn. please look at the form I submitted for more information about me.

reasons why I want to Quit:

1) I'm upsetting and making Hashem extremely angry because I know how much he hates this sin and if love him how could I be looking at other things.

2) This is destroying my connection to Hashem in tefillah and learning

3) These desires are fleeting and temporary and I'm giving up olam habba for a fleeting moment of pleasure in this fake world.

4) I want to have kedusha and tahurah before I get married and not go into a marriage with this sin on me.

5) This sin will prevent me from bringing talmedai chachamim into this world because if my mind is tainted this will affect my children chas veshalom.

Re: EYES NEED KEDUSHA 23 Nov 2021 02:22 #374508

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Your determination is amazing and you'll surely keep on getting better and better in your avodas hashem and kedusha. 

I just want to point out one correction to what you wrote: 
"I'm upsetting and making Hashem extremely angry" 

The fact is that even when Hashem sends us suffering, He is not doing it out of anger. Maybe He is reminding us to accomplish more and to stop harming ourselves, or to repent and remove our sins without pain. Perhaps He is cleaning our sins with suffering so we emerge pristine and full of accomplishments forever.
Maybe He is challenging us to enable us to truly accomplish. Or maybe He has another reason. But Hashem is doing it out of love. When we sin, we do something foolish that has consequences and must be cleaned up. But Hashem does not view us as bad. He doesn’t hate us or get angry with us, even if He must bring us pain because of what we did.

As the Mishna Sanhedrin 46a relates:
Rabbi Meir says, “When a person is in pain [when he is being punished for his sins — Rashi], what does the Shechina say? ‘I am burdened by my head! I am burdened by my arm!’” Even though the person brought his suffering upon himself by sinning, Hashem cries out in pain, if it could be. He says, “My head and arm are hurting,” even though Hashem doesn’t have a head or an arm — because He is in so much pain because the sinner is suffering. Hashem feels our exact pain. Look how much Hashem loves us, even if we have sinned!
"If I am not for myself, who will be for me? But if I am only for myself, who am I? If not now, when?"
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Re: EYES NEED KEDUSHA 23 Nov 2021 12:36 #374523

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Kedusha26 wrote on 22 Nov 2021 22:52:

My goal is to guard my eyes and not look at inappropriate things on the computer web ( I do not watch porn). Unfortunately, I search for girls that used to be in my grade or celebrities from the time I used to watch porn. please look at the form I submitted for more information about me.

reasons why I want to Quit:

1) I'm upsetting and making Hashem extremely angry because I know how much he hates this sin and if love him how could I be looking at other things.

2) This is destroying my connection to Hashem in tefillah and learning

3) These desires are fleeting and temporary and I'm giving up olam habba for a fleeting moment of pleasure in this fake world.

4) I want to have kedusha and tahurah before I get married and not go into a marriage with this sin on me.

5) This sin will prevent me from bringing talmedai chachamim into this world because if my mind is tainted this will affect my children chas veshalom.


Welcome. great first post.

All great reasons, but there is another major one. How dare we objectify women? Women were not put in this world for any of us to "use" as toys of pleasure - and that even includes those women who unfortunately dress provocatively. How will you look at your wife if this is the mindset?

Stay connected and iyh you will break free.
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My threads: Lessons Learned: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/335248-Lessons-Learned

                    My Story and G-d Bless GYE: guardyoureyes.com/forum/17-Balei-Battims-Forum/303036-My-story-and-G-d-bless-GYE

Re: EYES NEED KEDUSHA 23 Nov 2021 13:41 #374526

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Welcome! Please check out these great free resources: 
ebook- The Battle of the Generation 
Audio series- The Fight
see below in my signature for the links
In the place where ba’alei teshuva stand, even pure tzaddikim who never sinned cannot stand. (Rabbi Avohu, Brachos 34b)

Great free resources:
My favorite book for breaking free: The Battle of the Generation 
https://guardyoureyes.com/ebooks/item/the-battle-of-the-generation. Change your attitude and change your life!

Rabbi Shafier's incredible lectures on breaking free: The Fight. Download here: 
https://theshmuz.com/series/the-fight/

If you're only ready to try something small, check out an easier way to do self-talk here:
https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/378128-Captain—Shtarkemotionals-Secret90Day-Challenge
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