Ybird wrote on 14 Nov 2023 14:32:

Mazel tov on the 2 years clean of porn and mazel tov on the only 37 days clean of masturbations!
Maybe reword "thanks to my stupidity" to "thanks to the ruach shtus stupidity"
The Talmud states: A person does not sin unless a spirit of insanity — ruach shtus — enters him. (Sotah 3a)

Keep on inspiring all of us!

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Ybird wrote on 08 Jan 2024 14:40:

Mazel Tov! 
Clear results of your great work and not letting yourself get discouraged from a fall! 
Keep it up!

Mazel Tov buddy!

yeh i know some of you are confused, why is Ybird on day 2?
Basically for the last couple of months i should have reset my chart several times according to the rules, ive went in p**n sites a few times but only for a short time, sometimes only 5 minutes and only watched "soft" stuff not the real thing, but i didn't because I thought that by resetting things will get worse, but last Thursday i watched some stuff that i shouldn't (also soft stuff, that i could have faked it and not reset) so i decided that i have to stop faking it and change my life to the better (i could have blamed it on my wife that dont want to put a filter on our tablet, but its me to blame, "who asked you to watch p**n?")

ybird wrote on 10 Sep 2024 13:49:

Thank you ybird for inspiring us and teaching us that it's possible to resist the natural urge to blame our wives. 
 יישר כח

R' Tweski wrote that man's basic needs are food, clothing, shelter and someone to blame. 

 I heard an idea in the name of R' Shmuel Brazil that אלול is the opposite of לולא.
לולא means "if only","but for" or "if not for". 

We spend so much of our life blaming everyone and everything. Elul is the time that we turn it all around and tell ourselves "NO excuses", period.

Wishing Hatzlacha to all! 

#extremeownership #eraseelulexcuses

I've been discouraged so many times from all the falls. 

I once read somewhere (or maybe I thought of it myself) it's kinda morbid, and the guys on here who have beat the challenge will maybe disagree....

Anyways...so maybe the nisayon is not to be clean but how do you pick yourself up after you do something wrong. You will have this challenge and falling forever, but how do you react the day after. 

(It's probably borderline kefirah to say that you will fall, but that's my way of looking at it)

odyossefchai wrote on 10 Sep 2024 15:05:

The Nisayon is to be clean.
RIGHT NOW. 
Forget about yesterday the day before and 30 seconds ago. 
You dont have to have the challenge forever. I just hit my 500th clean day as referenced in this brilliant post. A few short years ago I would never have imagined such a thing possible. But GYE is the place where miracles happen - you just need to make the miracle happen yourself.
Hatzlocha!!

odyossefchai wrote on 10 Sep 2024 15:05:

Do you feel the same way about speaking lashon hara?

If you think you can't change - that would be kefirah. 

             I wouldn't say it's borderline kefira to say that you would eventually fall. That mindset is actually part of this nisoyon. The future is irrelevant. How can you change the future if you aren't even there yet to know what will happen? 
            The same goes for the past. You cant change what you have done, unfortunately, so don't dwell on it, learn from it. Notice your what triggered you and use that in the moment so that you can be stronger. 
           The past and the future can be demoralizing when it comes to the large scope of things, but take a step back and think of yourself now, this moment. Not an hour ago and even 15min from now. Maybe you just fell and need chizuk, or you have an urge and came here to distract yourself. Think of what you are doing, you are fighting the battle and in this moment you are winning bc you either are getting back up or fighting off the urge. 
         
        So no its not kefirah to think that, its just the wrong way of looking at this battle for our minds and changing that outlook is part of winning

ODAAT - One Day At A Time. Not yesterday. Not tomorrow. TODAY!!