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There must be a way
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Re: There must be a way 22 Apr 2021 18:37 #367294

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I am 4 days clean from masturbation for the first time in several weeks. I did see some very explicit content yesterday though.
I spent record amount of time with my wife this week (we usually have like one night a week together) and would not have strength to fight if not for having her available but I am happy to be at this stage now. I know that it's against the ODAAT policy. 

On the way up
The start of 'STARting' is 'star'. Just start and you're a star!!
... and btw I really really love you! you keep me inspired!

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Re: There must be a way 22 Apr 2021 21:57 #367301

Happy to hear about your streak and the time you spent with your wife. Just make sure to be careful to avoid seeing anything you shouldn't see, because you will regret it later. I say spend as much time with your wife as you can. That way when you're not around her you might want to mess up less because your relationship with her will grow stronger from the time you 2 spend together. It's just an idea, but it can't hurt to try!

Re: There must be a way 25 Apr 2021 12:42 #367363

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Fell again
Got up again 
Clean since Friday b"h
The start of 'STARting' is 'star'. Just start and you're a star!!
... and btw I really really love you! you keep me inspired!

'the cleaner I stay, the cleaner I stay' - AlexEliezer
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Re: There must be a way 29 Apr 2021 06:00 #367641

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I had a bad slip last night, bad enough to count it as a fall. At least it was over quickly
The start of 'STARting' is 'star'. Just start and you're a star!!
... and btw I really really love you! you keep me inspired!

'the cleaner I stay, the cleaner I stay' - AlexEliezer
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Re: There must be a way 03 May 2021 06:31 #367845

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Fell again yesterday after 3 days
The start of 'STARting' is 'star'. Just start and you're a star!!
... and btw I really really love you! you keep me inspired!

'the cleaner I stay, the cleaner I stay' - AlexEliezer
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Re: There must be a way 03 May 2021 21:40 #367904

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Sometimes its easy to lack motivation to get a long streak because we won't be able to get our pleasure of acting out. Meaning if you have a streak of 0-7 days you might think alright i don't have such a big streak it will only take a few days to get back to where I am. But following that logic you will never reach greatness and break free. Not saying your doing this but theres something thats the problem here because youve been in a bit of a rut. What are you going to do to get out? Why don't you set yourself a flexible goal - 2 week clean streak by the end of may or st similar? (thats one of the ways I personally broke free)
Think about how good you'll feel if you say no to desire and compare that to how bad you'll feel if you say yes.

Desire is unique in the way that it is never fulfilled -  if you give in the desire comes back even more powerful in just a few days. Telling yourself that its ok because this is really the last time doesn't work because you are just adding new images to your head that will cause future falls.

The Joy of triumph over the yetzer hara is worth the effort it takes to win. It IS worth it! Keep fighting!


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Re: There must be a way 08 May 2021 23:16 #368195

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EvedHashem1836 wrote on 03 May 2021 21:40:
Sometimes its easy to lack motivation to get a long streak because we won't be able to get our pleasure of acting out. Meaning if you have a streak of 0-7 days you might think alright i don't have such a big streak it will only take a few days to get back to where I am. But following that logic you will never reach greatness and break free. Not saying your doing this but theres something thats the problem here because youve been in a bit of a rut. What are you going to do to get out? Why don't you set yourself a flexible goal - 2 week clean streak by the end of may or st similar? (thats one of the ways I personally broke free)

Thanks. I will bl"n elaborate with a clearer update sometime this week. 

Got a 6 day streak this week b"h but now I'm back to 0
The start of 'STARting' is 'star'. Just start and you're a star!!
... and btw I really really love you! you keep me inspired!

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Re: There must be a way 14 May 2021 07:54 #368578

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Fell today on day 6
Hard side the month but getting better in general I think 

The start of 'STARting' is 'star'. Just start and you're a star!!
... and btw I really really love you! you keep me inspired!

'the cleaner I stay, the cleaner I stay' - AlexEliezer
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Re: There must be a way 10 Jun 2021 23:55 #369746

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R'Starting how are you doing?
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