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The Long War Journal 16 Jan 2019 16:32 #338497

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I've moved this thread here, as it is the more appropriate forum.

Day 45 - Half way to 90.

This is a great accomplishment, but I am not letting my guard down. 90 is a somewhat arbitrary number and I know how my YHworks. When I hit 90 my YH will say "great job! Let's celebrate!"

I feel myself slipping slightly more every day. Like I'm taking tiny steps towards the cliff. I am careful to guard my eyes, no porn, eyes down in public, but the YH is getting smarter. Still fighting.

Re: The Long War Journal 17 Jan 2019 03:21 #338510

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Congrats on your halfway mark! The 90 or 900 or 9,000 number is really irrelevant once you accept yourself for who you are and acknowledge you can fall any day regardless of your number of clean days. In terms of your feeling of slipping, have you considered taking a detailed inventory of all the avenues you have access to that is causing your slips and blocking them off? Like filters that you know how to get around on phone, computer, etc? Everyone has different triggers and struggles but if you can identify the source of your slips and be self-honest about completely blocking that off, no halfway measures where you leave a back door open..., the slips may become less frequent and less of a problem over time. Hatzlocho!
Last Edit: 17 Jan 2019 11:43 by brlife101.

Re: The Long War Journal 17 Jan 2019 14:23 #338518

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Hi,
I am a little odd I think in that I have no taiva for porn, and I am not triggered by internet. Typically my issue is loneliness/tiredness/stress that manifest as acting out.  

Re: The Long War Journal 17 Jan 2019 15:19 #338519

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A few people have mentioned recently that loneliness is a big trigger,
I have a great idea maybe get in touch with each other(or anyone for that matter) plenty of real friendships have been started from people connecting through gye..

Re: The Long War Journal 17 Jan 2019 18:51 #338524

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airmale613

You are not odd.
I am almost the same.

90 or 95% of the time I act out it is because I am very lonely or tired, feeling hurt.

The HALT description is very much me, these are my triggers:

Hungry
Angry (Resentful)
Lonely
Tired

The acting out is a "junk food high" which I crave when I am very low.
Gives me only a few seconds of high, then afterwards intense regret.
It has taken me so long to realise this.

So now I make great efforts to see the warning signs and do something positive.

Best thing is to call a friend, but also to be nice to yourself with some reading, to watch a film, or exercise.

Longer term I am going to get involved in some social groups.
Last Edit: 17 Jan 2019 18:54 by ColinColin.

Re: The Long War Journal 17 Jan 2019 23:56 #338530

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I had a slip today but not a fall. I'm disappointed at myself. Two weeks ago I was so strong, now I'm weakening. I'm even more disappointed that I'm not more disappointed. Need to wrap my head around this.

Re: The Long War Journal 21 Jan 2019 04:16 #338557

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airmale613 wrote on 17 Jan 2019 23:56:
I had a slip today but not a fall. I'm disappointed at myself. Two weeks ago I was so strong, now I'm weakening. I'm even more disappointed that I'm not more disappointed. Need to wrap my head around this.

Instead of wrapping your head around it, perhaps let it out of your head.

You are in essence, resenting yourself for not feeling worse than what you are currently feeling. Look up on the forum, numerous posts why resentment is not good for you.

Two weeks is very normal to feel this way. The initial excitement wore off. Now comes crunch time. Time to get to work.

Be well, Hatzlocha Rabba
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Re: The Long War Journal 21 Jan 2019 12:07 #338562

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airmale613 wrote on 17 Jan 2019 23:56:
I had a slip today but not a fall. I'm disappointed at myself. Two weeks ago I was so strong, now I'm weakening. I'm even more disappointed that I'm not more disappointed. Need to wrap my head around this.

Welcome! What's the definition of "strong"? Try not to mistake it for "ga'avah".
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Re: The Long War Journal 30 Jan 2019 19:51 #338745

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Day 59:
Had a rough patch over the last week or so but just barely made it. Reviewed the shiur the got me back on the wagon and fortified myself. I can't believe I'm almost 2/3 the way to 90. I'm feeling good where I am at this point and ready to make more advancements. Thank you all for your support.
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