Hi GYE Friends.
I was at plus 70 days of sobriety and I was feeling proud about myself for making it that far. Purim came and I took an Uber ride back from a Purim party and the Uber driver just happened to be a young nice girl. I started to flirt with her and my adrenaline kicked into very high gear and when I got home I went onto a website that I had listed in my inner circles, it only lasted a few minutes before I amazingly pulled myself away from it. The next day I spoke to my sponsor and I realized that I would have to start over from day one since I violated one of my inner circles. The following evening after another Purim party I was about to go into my house but my addiction kicked in and I Ubered over to a bar. I took off my yarmulke and started to party like a goy, at some point I was touching a girl and her friend told me that I was being inappropriate, I apologized and left, as I realized that I went too far.
Boruch hashem I stayed sober today and I now realize that alcohol played a big role in losing my sobriety. I am working with my sponsor to have some rules in place regarding alcohol. Also, my wife was not interested in attending any of these parties and although I didn't say anything to her, I was a little upset about her not wanting to go with me and that made me feel that it was ok to act out. I was also secretly hoping that I would just walk into something that would allow me to act out without having enough time to think about it and contact my sponsor. Hashem gave me just a small taste of that so that I can see how foolish my thoughts were. I am thankful that this acting out has not resulted in what my previous acting out would have been with a massage provider and committing some kind of sexual act. I now have another chance to start over with purer intentions, to learn from my mistakes and to commit to recovery in an even greater way than before.