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Journey of one day at a time
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A recent scientific study shows that it takes 90 days to break an addictive pattern in the mind. Start your own Log of your journey to 90 days! Post here to update us on your status and to give each other chizuk to stay strong! See

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Re: Journey of one day at a time 28 Jun 2018 09:57 #332769

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Thanks for taking the time to write this up. I think you are talking about motivation. I also think it's hard to say which of your behaviors really motivates you. You would be the best person to find that out with your own experiments though.

Re: Journey of one day at a time 11 Jul 2018 04:22 #333222

Alright, screw the 12 steps. 

You only need 2 IMHO.

1. Cultivate a rich social life.

2. Watch your addiction get a heck of a lot weaker (or dare I say it, disappear?).

Why does this work? I don't know really. It's like the video in Markz's signature says, the opposite of addiction is connection. 

I resisted this for a while. Why? I guess cause I wanted to find a solution that allowed me to be self-sufficient, one that would allow me to meet all my needs by myself.

I wanted to believe and know that if I was the only person left on earth, I would be alright, by myself. 

But seriously, I believe this actually. Get friends.

"But, Ihavestrength, I don't really know anyone!"

"That's ridiculous, everyone knows someone."

"But maybe they won't want to talk with me!" 

"There definitely will be people who won't want to talk to you. Find someone who will. This requires work!

Reach out to people and strengthen your network, get closer to people you already know, and try meeting new people." 

DISCLAIMER: Please take everything I'm writing with seven grains of salt. I write facetiously, but I only mean to express things that seem to be working for me. I'm not telling anyone what to do, cause frankly, this may be BS : ) So use at your own risk, and don't forget, always drink responsibly.
Last Edit: 11 Jul 2018 04:28 by Ihavestrength.

Re: Journey of one day at a time 11 Jul 2018 09:07 #333228

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Cool that you were able to whittle it down.

I bet watching (2) is as important as socializing (1), if I understood your post.

Re: Journey of one day at a time 01 Aug 2018 02:25 #334157

Doing alright thank G-d.

There is hope in this life. 

Take courage the saying goes, it's not something we are born with. 


Re: Journey of one day at a time 04 Sep 2018 04:38 #335263

Setbacks in recovery don't make anyone feel good. When the next one happens, maybe remind yourself of this:

There are other people out there, feeling these same negative emotions, in this very moment.

Re: Journey of one day at a time 24 Oct 2018 01:58 #336624

Feeling like there is a lot of BS and pontificating on the forum recently. 

Re: Journey of one day at a time 20 Nov 2018 12:33 #337366

Ihavestrength wrote on 24 Oct 2017 00:43:

Another thing I'm struggling with right now:

When I'm under an attack of lust, I don't want to overcome the urge anymore. I want it to go away. I want it to go away desperately, but I'm not willing to endure the discomfort anymore. I am starting to feel: is all of this really worth it?

I don't need an inspiring talk, I don't need to hear an uplifting song, or give myself a pep talk. These won't work anyhow. 

Truly, im ain ani li mi li. You can call someone for help, but if you don't believe there is a greater benefit to abstaining from lust than retaining it, you will not stand. If you can't get it clear that regardless of anything, there is no way in f*ck*** hell that it can be a positive thing for me to look at some picture on a tiny screen of some skin, then you don't stand a chance and no one can help you. Pick yourself on the f*cki** ground and stop whining.

You want to feel holy? You want to feel strong? You don't want to deal with these temptations, which leave you wondering "why not try it" even after you walk away?

It ain't gonna happen. Success doesn't come to those who are picky. Success doesn't come to those who think, ah, I've blown it already and then use insane rationalizations to act out or lust. Success comes to those who will take an ounce of success whenever it is offered, regardless of what happened a minute before. 

Know this: any rationalization which ends in "you should engage in an act of lust" is self-sabotaging and pure unadulterated bullshi* 

I think my head is quite screwed up at the moment. I'm not thinking straight and I don't know what course of action I should take. Every rationalization that exists to just look at a few pictures is inside of me and running through my mind. 

It's funny. Life is so crazy. I'm so small. One in 7 billion. I live in my tiny head. I can't force myself to become bigger all of a sudden. There are so many forces more powerful than I. This doesn't mean that I don't have any power though. I don't know what the correct path for me to take is. I was doing good for a time. That time has past. Perhaps I shall begin again.

Talking to myself... 

This is a repost. Came across this today and it helped me, perhaps it will help someone else.

Re: Journey of one day at a time 20 Nov 2018 14:15 #337368

Sometimes we need extra chizuk and some time out to get a clearer mind and maybe connect with someone. Next, we need to know when it's time to move on with our day.

Re: Journey of one day at a time 30 Nov 2018 20:45 #337630

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Without you giving specific examples, that’s a pretty broadly negative comment with nothing constructive that can come from it.

What point were you trying to make? 

Re: Journey of one day at a time 22 Feb 2019 22:13 #339183

Workingguy wrote on 30 Nov 2018 20:45:
Without you giving specific examples, that’s a pretty broadly negative comment with nothing constructive that can come from it.

What point were you trying to make? 

I guess I didn't like that people were overloading the forum with really long posts that were either really long and complicated/made no sense, or really spammy. I felt that there was such a high volume of those posts that they were actually defining the atmosphere on the forum (for what defines the atmosphere of a forum other than the posts within it?). 

Just one man's opinion though. Things are looking a lot better since I've been here last. 

P.S. Sorry for the late response lol. 
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