for who get it and might have figured out a way:how do i take a shower? it is so hard for me, the only way i get through it clean (literally and addiction-wise lol) is by disconnecting myself from my mind during the process...

hmm, that is difficult. i have not taken a shower at my house in over a year. i take a shower at the mikvah everyday. is that a possibility?

HashemsSoldier wrote on 17 Dec 2010 05:29:

nope  :-\ otherwise that would be a good solution...

I have not personally tried this - but how about taking it uncomfortably cold?

(note: If doing so, I would recommend doing so in the morning. Reason being, I remember reading somewhere that while being in cold water does inhibit arousal - afterwards (when you warm up) the body may actually be more prone to arousal than usual - so, if this is true - probably not a good idea to do before going to sleep..)

Shower when you are in a big rush to go somewhere, which will make you go in and out.  Don't shower when you have too much time to spare.

Stuart wrote on 17 Dec 2010 14:06:


for example if you have a scheduale and every day you daven at 7 30. then wake up at 6 45 or 7 and take a quick shower since you know that you have to be at shul very soon

The shower can be a VERY difficult place for many of us.  Thanks for not being embarrassed to raise the issue.

I would try the following:

1) Call my sponsor or another addict and bookend it (check in before and after and say exactly what did or did not happen)

2) Pray (God, I am powerless over acting out in the shower.  Please you take away my compulsion and save me from my addiction.  I agree to help out (doing suggestion #1) and not get in the way (don't do anything I'm supposed to be doing).

3) Gratitude (when you get through a shower clean, write out your gratitude to God for saving you from this sickness)

Hatzlacha

I really enjoy myshowers they are one of the few pleasures I let myself have in my crazy world. But If I sacrifice this calming time for the ribono shel olom maybe he will make it so I have a calm enoug life I no longer need them...so nu, I will try this 'chap a shower' in and out idea. It will haveto become soething I sqeeze into my schedule at the gym or in he morning..the crazy thins I have to do to beat this addiction-then agqin, the crazy things I did to get into it in the first place...lol

Dude why didnt I think of that? All I need is a littled deoderant and all set

I am awed by the dedication of people to being clean(pun intended). People are willing to give up showering at home. Wow!

in the winter one can go days without showering go from erev shabbas to erev shabbas, what a kaavod for shabbas, the only shower one takes a weak is for shabbas..... gevaldik!!!!  ;D

come shabbos, people will be asking me, 'rebbie teddy, where'd your suntan go' and i will just smile mysteriously, for only i know the shabbos secret, kept hidden and passed down throughout the ages. amen.

this is such a time saver, i should have thought of it years ago. i mean, why do we bother taking showers in the first place, if not for lichvod shabbos- you're just going to end up getting dirty all over again the next day anyways. why bother?

d_teddybear wrote on 22 Dec 2010 05:49:


wow! what a good idea, there IS a way to work on ones suntan during the winter!

HashemsSoldier wrote on 22 Dec 2010 20:39:


that, and skiing naked.

i dont know what i would rather do.....ski naked or only tak a shower once a week
well i go to the mikvah every day, so only showering once a week is out of the picture, yikes!
that meens i have to go skiing naked???????? can i be snowboarding???