Hi,
I'm a bit tired so I'll touch on affirmations...every day I try to list at least five I am's or I will or I can statements I also read the list daily to reinforce these positives:
EX I am deserving of a loving relationship with Hashem (I may write a small paragraph on why)
I will accomplish my daily goals (I may write a small paragraph on how)
I am deserving of sobriety (I may write a small paragraph on why)
I can clear the wreckage of the past
I can forgive myself
Regarding Shuirim I love Rav Dror he is amazing when it comes to a positive outlook. I also love the mussar shuirim at Machonmeir Yeshiva. Rabbi Micha Hymen is my favorite Rav there.
The lists are really just daily step work from various steps.
For me I do step one while doing step seven. Or I'll do step 11 while doing step two. I've gone through the steps in order already so I recognize that everyday is an organic process of touching on issues that may be relevant to exchanges with people during the day.
Perhaps someone will anger me.....I write it out....I try to see the role I played in being angered by the person. Perhaps tomorrow I will still be angry maybe it has turned into a resentment. If that is the case I will journal on that resentment.
If you want me to elaborate more I will