Dov wrote:
And BTW, to shivisi (who i really love a lot):
Shivisi responds:
For some reason this introduction reminded me of when I was a young child and my mother a.h. would open a discussion with "I love you very much..." I knew I should brace myself for a good wham on the head!
Dov wrote:
If you believe that knowing a Rambam or medical journal or whatever about "the damage masturbating yourself can do to your body, mind, neshoma, whatever", will actually stop you...then I suggest you may have already sunk deeply into kidding yourself.
Dov wrote:
Finding a medical excuse to stop will not work an iota, and neither will a RMB"M. Gimmicks is all they are, I think.
Shivisi responds:
[quoted from my original post]:
[I also understand that this may not help in the case of either serious addiction, or great temptation, [note "smoking causes death, cancer, infertility, heart disease, etc etc], but for a short term "hold back" for a one time urge, and as a supplement to all the other weapons used to fight the urge, this may have at least some use.]
I clearly pointed out in my OP my realization that this will not serve as a remedy from my addiction, [just as the warning on cigarette packages does not stop addictive smokers], and I never thought it to be a replacement to anything else I should and am doing toward recovery.
Dov wrote:
And talking of the yetzer as though he were somebody else, as you sound like you are in this post - doesn't that sound like a problem to you? Is that reality at all? Have you no responsibility? Is this not about what you want at all? Are we through blaming G-d (and the yetzer hora He gave us) for the way we love porn, turn to it in hope that it will give us what we want, and masturbate ourselves trying to feel the sweet feeling of orgasm - and ready to begin to take a little responsibility for our recovery on ourselves?
Shivisi responds: referring to the YH as an outside force, coming to wage war on the person, tempting him to sin, is the way the sifrei mussar instruct us to take action in our constant "Milchemes Hayetzer". This in no means is not removing responsibility from oneself, nor is it “blaming Hashem or the YH and shifting blame from one’s self. I have clearly noted that my goal is to use past experiences which I have found to work to help me in MY JOB of overcoming temporary temptations served to me BY HASHEM, through His angel the YH, to tempt me with this addiction, and to GIVE ME A JOB AND RESPONSIBILITY to look for ways and tactics of overcoming this.
Dov wrote:
If you hate what hiding and sneaking and using porn and masturbating yourself (phone sex, voyeurism, or whatever else you may be doing) makes you into and makes you think and feel - then join us in recovery chaver! The water is cold at first, but it warms up pretty soon. Life is OK without lust. Warning labels not relevant.
shivisi responds:
I BH have joined GYE 28 days ago! and [have been clean since]trying to do what it takes to both learn from others and invest the effort it takes to advance in the recovery process.
Thank you Dov, for all you have given to me and to this site, and may the zchus of all those who you have helped stand in your credit.