There is tremendous wisdom here.  Listen. Connect.  Implement some of the suggestions.  

Wishing you much success 
vehkam

WOW!!! YHaTzaddik! Your progress up until now is SUPER impressive!!! You are fantastic! Keep up the amazing work, and you'll be soaring in no time!
BTW, While I am married, I have had the pleasure of getting to know many bachurim, many of whom have really gotten this whole thing under control, so don't worry at all, you can too!!!
Looking forward to hearing more from you

My dear friend Yosef, keep in mind although a lot of ppl on here are married kmat all of us if not every married person here struggled since they were a bochur .
so we can definitely relate to you , although i hear your point of that it's easier in a way cause we're married...

yosefthetzadik wrote on 30 Jun 2025 22:46:

Shalom Brother,

Might I suggest the following posts from our (soon to no longer be) single Magic Man:
https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/412126-Jewizard21s-Journey?limit=15&start=135#434605

https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/412126-Jewizard21s-Journey?limit=15&start=105#430003

https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/417787-nechama-for-the-singles?limit=15&start=15#424553

Hatzlacha!

Hey yosfthetzadik,
Please feel free to reach out whenever. I am 23 and single (soon not to be as BenHashemBH mentioned ) 
I used to use Porn and Masturbation daily or multiple times a day from age 12. Baruch Hashem I am currently at around 580 days of no Porn and 440 days of no Masturbation. 

Heres another post of mine from a while ago 
guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/412126-Jewizard21s-Journey?limit=15&start=120#432410

As for married men having it easier, its not so simple and I can elaborate when I am not running off a few hours of sleep, 3 coffees, and it being 12:30am 

Also there is a stage where nobody really talks about and that is the engagement period, which I will also elaborate on at a different time.

For now, what have been your main motivators so far? and why do you think they haven't worked long term?

Keep on Trucking, One Day At A Time!

Hey yosefthetzadik! welcome to the forum i joined pretty recently myself (although I've been in touch with gye mentors for some time) and I totally get what you mean about gye being an addiction, at first I was thinking did I replace one with another!?

Just wanted to respond to a couple of your points which resonated with me. Number one I totally understand what you mean about a difficult home life triggering this behavior, its very much the case with me and I think you'll find others on this forum in similar situations. I will say something obvious yet which deserves to be emphasized that although its fair to say that it adds tremendously to the nisayon, it makes you a whole lot cooler in every little victory because your fight is so much harder and you can bet Hashem keeps that in mind.

Also let's just say your not the only single who hangs out on here...  I also would think that its harder for guys in our situation but at the same time you never know. For me personally it helps to think about the fact that at least you can look forward to a happy marriage with pas besalo (which of course doesn't mean that marriage is a replacement for P)  For example let's say a guy is struggling with shalom bayis or maybe isn't interested in his wife that could be in a way much harder because he can start feeling deeply dissatisfied  and he knows this is it there's no other form of pas besalo for him which I can imagine leads to all types of problems. That perspective sort of keeps the thing in perspective for me that you cant say the next situation in life will be the main time to deal with it because you just never know.

Anyway glad you've joined the struggle fellow bochur, yours truly, jwbf