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Need Direction 18 Dec 2023 08:36 #405113

yiftach
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Hi,

I just joined the programs seriously, however, I feel that I need guidance from a Daas Torah to turn to. I’m married for 2+ yrs and want my wife to feel like we have an intermediate she can speak to, to get a feeling of where I’m holding and progressing.

I tried going down the therapist route, but can’t afford it more than one week.

Basically, what I need is a Rav (that we can speak to and guide us annonymously?), to get the direction we need.

Can anyone help?

Thanks

Looking forward to get to know you better!

Email me @ yiftach1609@gmail.com or call/text 347-201-4989 (Google voice)

My story is unfolding here

"יפתח ה' לך את אוצרו הטוב"

Re: Need Direction 18 Dec 2023 10:07 #405115

frank.lee Current streak: 398 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 687 Karma: 21	You can call a Rav anonymously and discuss things. Whatever you are going through is likely similar to what tends of thousands of other couples are going through our have gone through, and they have the experience, insight and siyata dishmaya to help and guide you. You can try kav halacha.

Re: Need Direction 18 Dec 2023 11:16 #405118

yiftach Current streak: 309 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 329 Karma: 29	What is kav halacha? I cud just call anyone anonymously and have them guide me and my wife?
	Looking forward to get to know you better! Email me @ yiftach1609@gmail.com or call/text 347-201-4989 (Google voice) My story is unfolding here "יפתח ה' לך את אוצרו הטוב"

Re: Need Direction 18 Dec 2023 12:34 #405121

shmuel Current streak: 578 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 342 Karma: 14	My experience has been that i need someone that knows me...

Re: Need Direction 18 Dec 2023 13:05 #405122

true_self Current streak: 42 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 528 Karma: 16	She can try Amudim.org they are very helpful. GYE also has a spouses program, she can get in touch with someone there if she signs up. Wishing you much hatzlacha!
	My thread: From two identities to True self If you want to reachout to me to talk please email: wish2banonym@gmail.com

Re: Need Direction 18 Dec 2023 13:19 #405125

crabapple18
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Hi - Welcome

I’m not sure how you’d expect a Rov or Rebbe to offer continued guidance (and progress reports) with you remaining anonymous.

I personally only gained from a “non anonymous” relationship with a rebbe.

Here to see what works for others and a good shmooze.
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Re: Need Direction 18 Dec 2023 13:38 #405126

yiftach
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I hear that. But at my current situation, and being the fact that NO ONE besides my wife has a clue about my matzav. I feel really embarrassed to share with another soul that knows me (the fact that my wife found out was hard enough for me). Therefore, as a first step and finding guidance, I am searching (unsuccessfully, as of now) to find a solution. All I need is a rabbinic figure that I can speak to and can guide me together with my wife.

Looking forward to get to know you better!

Email me @ yiftach1609@gmail.com or call/text 347-201-4989 (Google voice)

My story is unfolding here

"יפתח ה' לך את אוצרו הטוב"

Re: Need Direction 18 Dec 2023 13:45 #405127

shmuel Current streak: 578 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 342 Karma: 14	Was is the guidance you are looking for?

Re: Need Direction 18 Dec 2023 14:15 #405132

bright Current streak: 74 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 617 Karma: 23	Maybe try Hashem Help Me. He is a major baal eitza in this area. Even if he personally wont do everything you want. He probably can point you in the right direction.
	Nothing good grows in the dark.

Re: Need Direction 18 Dec 2023 14:20 #405133

yiftach Current streak: 309 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 329 Karma: 29	The basics. Where to turn to? What help to reach out to
	Looking forward to get to know you better! Email me @ yiftach1609@gmail.com or call/text 347-201-4989 (Google voice) My story is unfolding here "יפתח ה' לך את אוצרו הטוב"

Re: Need Direction 18 Dec 2023 17:48 #405146

Heeling Current streak: 130 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 889 Karma: 38	bright wrote on 18 Dec 2023 14:15: Maybe try Hashem Help Me. He is a major baal eitza in this area. Even if he personally wont do everything you want. He probably can point you in the right direction. Email address for Hashem Help Me - michelgelner@gmail.com He's a Tzadik! Please reach out to him.
	You can win the fight, but I'll have to live with the loser. Any excuse you use for yourself, you must be willing to use for your wife. Not Always can I understand others, but I can always respect their wishes. You're human, it's okay. One half of the world cannot understand the pleasures of the other.

Re: Need Direction 19 Dec 2023 00:05 #405156

frank.lee Current streak: 398 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 687 Karma: 21	Yes. There are a number of Rabbis who answer the phones. Call. Stay talking and you will see if you are comfortable with them, is he patient etc. And you can ask him if it is good time to share the full story, or just a quick question. Then you can call back and connect directly to him. You can ask him how. I can message you the number...