tryingtobeholy wrote on 06 Nov 2023 17:57:
Hi everyone in this Heilige community of people trying to become better and stay holy!
It all started when I was a 7 year old boy and I had unhealthy relationships with other boys for a long period of time.
I had many family-related issues which I will not discuss as of now unless someone wants to hear...
All along, for years I've suffered in complete silence.
I was an outstanding boy in learning, understanding learning and in Middos.
Over time, I developed an unreal level of anxiety, mostly social anxiety.
For a few years, I didn't express myself to any friends not about mundane matters, and surely not a word about dealing with issues.
In short, I lived in complete loneliness and isolation.
After a very tense year-and-a-half, I was by a relative who has a computer. I went onto it, and saw some inappropriate "shopping images". Nothing that can be labeled as "explicit". But, boy was I horrified.
Life continued, till around a year later where I stopped functioning due to all my issues. I went to help but I wouldn't share anything. I got some medication, began opening up my sad story.
My struggle with pornography started around a year later, after I was discharged from the hospital for a psychiatric emergency, when I went ahead and bought a device. This was the beginning of my current struggle with pornography where every once in a while, I go out and either break through a filter or buy a device and watch porn. Usually, I feel so guilty that I get rid of it after a short amount of time. The longest I had a device for, was a few days.
I would like to hear some input and I can elaborate and continue.
Wishing everyone much success
Dear Holy,
The mere fact that you are trying to be holy makes you a hero and a true Eved Hashem!
Welcome to this wonderful site where people from all walks of life and different struggles, some easier and some harder than yours have succeeded in getting away from this problem. So you made the right choice and taken the first step in the right direction!
Now, it seems that you might benefit from professional help, are you currently going for help? Lots of us here are, its a perfectly normal and healthy thing to be doing. I went for help for years as well.
Regarding your background, i wish to hear more details of your struggles. I also went thru a rough childhood and have/had terrible anxiety.
Stick around and read the Battle of the generations, start the Flight to Freedom program. Slowly but surely you will be able to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
Good luck/
You can email me if you want.
Chancygye@outlook.com