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Re: Intro - bochur soon going on shidduchim 19 Jul 2023 05:19 #398965

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I'm pretty much finished the program already, also who is HHM?

Re: Intro - bochur soon going on shidduchim 19 Jul 2023 05:22 #398966

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hashem help me. PM me to continue conversation, the back and forth doesnt work here
Nothing good grows in the dark. 
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Re: Intro - bochur soon going on shidduchim 19 Jul 2023 12:29 #398969

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lrose wrote on 19 Jul 2023 04:58:
Hey everyone i messed up again, i keep messing up after going  a week or so strong, any ideas for getting over the hump? Also everytime either before or during i always think about my emergency plan and have it in the back of my mind but I just push it away and then continue even though i kknow it will help if i just listen to the plan. Any ideas on that? Also if anyone has some hizzuk for me because i kinda just feel like I will just stay in this week cycle for ever (maybe if there someone who continuously kept messing up even after joining and now is on a great path) Please let me know if yall have some help for me, thanks so much

You can get over the hump. A lot of people have done so! It's very hard to change your patterns. Nothing worth while happens easily. I think it could help to look at these weeks as the initial tries of a toddler learning to walk... You are going to get the hang of it. Make sure you know why you want your life to look different now, why you want to live clean. Do you have a goal that you're trying to reach for besides "stopping"? Reach out to Hashem for help.   
​The programs can help, but connecting to a real person can help in a different way. And there are special people here, people whose guidance can help you in a tangible way. HHM is Hashem Help Me, he is a special and unique mentor that has helped many, many. There are other great people here. The community is a resource that is a complete game-changer. Forums are just the beginng. The path is different when walked with others.....

Stay in the game and keep in touch. You'll learn to walk, and even run, imyH!  
Please feel free to reach out anytime at chaim.oigen@gmail.com
Last Edit: 19 Jul 2023 12:31 by chaimoigen.

Re: Intro - bochur soon going on shidduchim 19 Jul 2023 14:02 #398978

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chaimoigen wrote on 19 Jul 2023 12:29:

lrose wrote on 19 Jul 2023 04:58:
Hey everyone i messed up again, i keep messing up after going  a week or so strong, any ideas for getting over the hump? Also everytime either before or during i always think about my emergency plan and have it in the back of my mind but I just push it away and then continue even though i kknow it will help if i just listen to the plan. Any ideas on that? Also if anyone has some hizzuk for me because i kinda just feel like I will just stay in this week cycle for ever (maybe if there someone who continuously kept messing up even after joining and now is on a great path) Please let me know if yall have some help for me, thanks so much

You can get over the hump. A lot of people have done so! It's very hard to change your patterns. Nothing worth while happens easily. I think it could help to look at these weeks as the initial tries of a toddler learning to walk... You are going to get the hang of it. Make sure you know why you want your life to look different now, why you want to live clean. Do you have a goal that you're trying to reach for besides "stopping"? Reach out to Hashem for help.   
​The programs can help, but connecting to a real person can help in a different way. And there are special people here, people whose guidance can help you in a tangible way. HHM is Hashem Help Me, he is a special and unique mentor that has helped many, many. There are other great people here. The community is a resource that is a complete game-changer. Forums are just the beginng. The path is different when walked with others.....

Stay in the game and keep in touch. You'll learn to walk, and even run, imyH!  

Beautiful!
"It is not our abilities that show who we truly are, it is our choices.” ---- Albus Dumbeldore (as per Chris Columbus)
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