Eerie wrote on 28 Apr 2023 18:43:

I’ve had a light phone for about 5 years and very happy with it

 have a heavily filtered and minimal app iPhone for work. When not working it’s put away

That's gevaldig! Keep it up, may there be many more like you:)

iLoveHashem247 wrote on 28 Apr 2023 11:36:

the way i did it was gradually. i got a new phone and gave my old one to a friend to keep for me for a week as a trial to see if i can do without it, and bh it went pretty smoothly from there.

i switched to a company called safetelecom. 
for those who are unfamiliar, they take a google pixel, and reprogram it so it doesn't have a browser, and they have their own appstore where you can only get apps that were approved by them. 

some of the phone's pros and cons:
pros:
- its very safe, (there's no access websites, even through links in emails etc. and its also impossible to remove the filter/get access for a limited time.)
- the program is compatible with the phone, so it doesn't slow it down or kill the battery.
cons:
- its expensive (i know, so is kosher meat)
- it gets annoying having restricted access. (right, the meat referance applies here as well).

10 days bh

Amazing story!  I grew up traditional but became frum at 16 starting at 14 and my family changed as well not as much as me but shomer Shabbos. I use the words still “jerking off” not the M word either.

I rarely look at total nudes of women only of course never men do it’s not porn at sll. However it’s still wrong to stare at A woman’s parts private or just her legs and drms snd shoulders. I am happily married and have a frum wife and frum son. My son socuslly and sexually is well adjusted. I am much older than you but don’t want you give my she away. I dtill
sct young shrouded by women rarely get erections due to my age. Pl rrff do pond back at your convenience. I also will not filter my phone or computer cause I do not want to block my work! 

hello im honored that your first post is addressed to me!
glad to hear things are going well for you and your family, hope you have continued hatzlacha.

i dont really relate to your situation being that you're at a different age and stage, but i urge you to consider: even if you feel that you're in a good place, please please for your son's sake have only safe devices at home. please don't take this lightly. better safe then sorry.
(forgive me if you're already there)

today is pesach sheni.

its also day 1 for me.

oh well

Horizon wrote on 05 May 2023 18:09:

Oy! So sorry to hear.
Maybe I can reframe this for you.
"Today is day 1 for me. But it's also Pesach Sheini. And the whole idea of Pesach Sheini is that Hashem wants us to have a second chance. So I'm starting over and with Hashem's help I will succeed!"

Monseyyid, you blew me away with that!

thanks guys.
monseyyid i like your perspective.

today is day 3

hey guys, i haven't updated in a couple.
today is day 4.
i was doing pretty good but then had some bumps. overall doing better over the last couple months, so bh.
i recently started getting in touch w more of the chevra (albeit slowly), and it's a wonderful experience so far. to be able to shmooze with someone who's been there done that in a totally normal non judgmental understanding way, is a geshmake zach. like you aren't talking to someone who's giving you chizuk, you're just shmoozing w someone in a normal way. it feels comforting and empowering. thanks to those who reached out to me.
im gonna try updating more often.
hatzlacha

Way to go brother!!!!

It's a wonderful experience for me as well

hey guys, today is day 6 bh.
i made a deal w one of the guys to stay clean for the week. i'm starting to feel less tempted to act out cuz i know its off limits. i shared w someone else that i made a deal w someone, and he decided to jump on the bandwagon. so now we're three.
chevra we're asking me what the deal is so i'll share: it's very simple. we gave each other our word that we'll be clean this week. i respect my word and thats enough. we discussed beforehand that we're ready for this and then went for it. we also check in w each other to see that all's good.

on another note i (finally) spoke to hhm yesterday. you're so kind for giving up time and energy to help others. thank you

day 8

a guten erev shabbos chevra!

bh today is day 9
i had a dream last night that i was nichshal, and i was very disturbed about having to 'start over'. bh i woke up and realized its just a dream (i know, funny dream). im excited to continue and keep growing (and trucking).

i wrote earlier that i had made a deal w someone to stay clean for the week. bh that worked well (for the two of us) and we're nearing the end of a successful week. while obviously there's no hocus pocus snap of the finger solution to being clean, the deal helped me tremendously at some weak moments, and i feel that if not for it i would have watched porn a couple times this week when i was in a mood.
having that in mind im a little nervous for the coming week when the deal is expired. i need something to push me through a shvache moment. im not talking about crazy strong urges, its more like the moments that im like screw it, just go for it. forget everything, let go, give in and jump into it.
if anyone relates and can offer some advice i'd appreciate it.

thanks guys,
hatzlacha