Hi, so this site helped me meet someone who challenged me to be clean for a week. No looking at anything not tznius, no touching except for the wife. He really helped me and I could not have done this alone.
For a long time, I did not think this was possible, but here I am. I think it is. But, I don't think anyone can do it alone. This is implied in Hilchot Deot, 2. The only solution is to have a mentor who can give you guidance on the right things to do, and to help you beleive that your emotional resiliance will naturally develop.
So, to all those visiting, I beg you please find a real person to be in touch with every day. You can do it, it can be done.