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TOPIC: Still work to do but there is always hope! 5717 Views

Re: Still work to do but there is always hope! 21 Nov 2022 21:20 #388065

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chancy wrote on 21 Nov 2022 20:29:

Wow!
This is incredible! You should realize by now that EVERYTHING is possible. Dont believe the YH when he tells you that you need to do this or that.
The best teacher is our own lives, look back and remember what has happened when you listened to the YH. Whenever the YH comes to me and says do this or that, i think about the tiems ive done the same thing over and over and i can look myself in the mirror and say "you have done that already and? what good did it do? nothing but misery...."
I know its tempting but nothing bad will happen if you dont give in to temptation, only good on this world and the next.

This week and next week the Parsha talks about Yakov Avinu how holy he was! He was the epitome of Kedusha! He got married the first time at age 86 and never had any sort of emission before..... that is Absolutly incredible. Very few people in the entire history of the world could claim the same. However, he is not named Yakov Hatzadik. Only Yosef is Named Yosef Hatzadik! Even though Yosef was very tempted and according to one point of view he was actually about to give in to temptation but he remembered his fathers image and abstained im afraid to wirte what the gmara says afterwards.
The point is the Tzadikim are the ones that are tempted and keep fighting and even after falling dont give up, but keep going higher on the ladder and higher.
Keep up the good fight! And Make Hashem proud!

Wow, @chancy…I’m hoping that this was directed at me because it is so nice. Thank you.

Re: Still work to do but there is always hope! 21 Nov 2022 21:41 #388067

chancy Current streak: 822 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 517 Karma: 22	Of course it was!

Re: Still work to do but there is always hope! 30 Nov 2022 20:17 #388622

teshuvahguy Current streak: 6 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 417 Karma: 24	I am now sober from P and M 40 days!

Re: Still work to do but there is always hope! 30 Nov 2022 20:51 #388626

chancy Current streak: 822 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 517 Karma: 22	WOW! Thats is really incredible and inspiring! You need to celebrate it. Not just because it something worth celebrating, but that way your brain will get used to the idea that there is pleasure in obtaining too. So go do what you feel is appropriate. Keep on posting and inspiring all of us!!! Onward and upward!!!

Re: Still work to do but there is always hope! 30 Nov 2022 20:56 #388628

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chancy wrote on 30 Nov 2022 20:51:

WOW! Thats is really incredible and inspiring!
You need to celebrate it. Not just because it something worth celebrating, but that way your brain will get used to the idea that there is pleasure in obtaining too.
So go do what you feel is appropriate. Keep on posting and inspiring all of us!!!
Onward and upward!!!

Thanks, @chancy! It’s not easy, but I am inspired by people like you who continue to post and talk about your journey. The story you just posted today is a perfect example. It really gives strength to know that if you can do what you did, then I need to try to keep pushing too, to be the erliche Yid I want to be. Having people acknowledge my milestones really helps!

Last Edit: 30 Nov 2022 20:57 by teshuvahguy.

Re: Still work to do but there is always hope! 02 Dec 2022 01:54 #388736

teshuvahguy Current streak: 6 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 417 Karma: 24	42 days!!! Almost halfway to 90. Hopefully beyond as well…

Re: Still work to do but there is always hope! 04 Dec 2022 01:10 #388821

teshuvahguy Current streak: 6 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 417 Karma: 24	45 days. Staying accountable.

Re: Still work to do but there is always hope! 04 Dec 2022 05:21 #388843

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TESHUVA GUY I LOVE YOU MY ADOPTED GRANDFATHER

I'm sick of the Un-scientific approach of today's medical and social environment.
we will never heal and become a better society unless we realize that all people are addicts. Any thing we do that we aren't interested in is "addiction" and medicine doesn't fix addictions.

Pain causes addiction and medicine cant fix pain.

Unless we heal our pain, and become truama conscious so as not to cause others pain, we will never be living in a functioning human society.

Re: Still work to do but there is always hope! 05 Dec 2022 00:53 #388913

teshuvahguy Current streak: 6 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 417 Karma: 24	46 days. Accountability post.

Re: Still work to do but there is always hope! 05 Dec 2022 01:11 #388917

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Keep it up my man. we are all following. You are impacting us all.

Re: Still work to do but there is always hope! 12 Dec 2022 12:29 #389311

teshuvahguy Current streak: 6 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 417 Karma: 24	53 days. Thank you, Hashem.

Re: Still work to do but there is always hope! 12 Dec 2022 17:15 #389321

eerie Current streak: 822 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 1569	Wow! Keep it up, my friend! You are an inspiration to us all! We are all rooting for you to succeed, and the fact that you are here is already success!
	Feel free to say hi. My email is 1gimpelovitz@gmail.com

Re: Still work to do but there is always hope! 12 Dec 2022 20:03 #389329

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Keep on winning!

the only way to be a Tzaddik is to get back up always…

7 Yipol Tzaddik Vekam - we are humans and fall but Tzaddikim get back up.

A Tzaddik is a winner who doesn’t give up. Even if he feels like a “loser” - the difference is that he keeps on trying to win!

Just like a poor and broke person both have no money - the poor person is poor in money and mindset, but with broke person it’s only temporary, he’s always focusing on getting back up.

don’t be poor, and recognize that broke is a temporary state.

you’re coming out of being broke and are on your way to riches. Money is temporary but mitzvot and your avodat Hashem are forever!

keep it up!!!!!!

Hi, my name is ILH and I’m grateful for having to focus just on today.
Easy does it... I don't need to be perfect.
If you figured out my identity, don't be shy, come say hi!
It takes tons of courage to fight the good fight, but we don't have to do it all alone.
My Story: guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/385922-My-Story-Being-Honest-For-Once

Re: Still work to do but there is always hope! 25 Dec 2022 15:18 #389991

teshuvahguy Current streak: 6 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 417 Karma: 24	On day 66. Having terrible urges. It’s so frustrating. I feel deprived and lonely and sad. The constant stress to not look at triggers (which are everywhere) and the constant convincing myself to be strong. It’s exhausting and sometimes I wonder if it’s all worth it.

Re: Still work to do but there is always hope! 25 Dec 2022 16:33 #389992

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Teshuvahguy wrote on 25 Dec 2022 15:18:

On day 66. Having terrible urges. It’s so frustrating. I feel deprived and lonely and sad. The constant stress to not look at triggers (which are everywhere) and the constant convincing myself to be strong. It’s exhausting and sometimes I wonder if it’s all worth it.

It's very important to find positive meaning in your struggle. In other words, when you appreciate the value of the struggle, you’ll become energized and willing to work hard to achieve your goal.

For example, imagine being given the choice of mining a 1-carat diamond or a larger 100-carat diamond. Which would you prefer? Would you be willing to put in the extra effort to carry the heavier gem out of the mine?
Chazal say that a mitzvah done with discomfort is worth 100 times more than a mitzvah that was easy. R’ Reuvain Dov Dessler (the father of R’ Eliyahu Dessler) explains that the value of a mitzvah increases exponentially in relation to its difficulty. In other words, a minor discomfort multiplies a mitzvah’s value by 100. With each increase in discomfort, the value multiplies an additional 100 times.
So the next time you have an urge, think of it as an opportunity to mine your diamond. Depending on how uncomfortable the urge is, when you resist it, you might be mining a 100, 1000, or even 10,000-carat diamond!

Your connection with Hashem, the kedusha you bring to the world, and the reward you can earn by overcoming the urge, could all be off the charts!

Also when you stop using Pornography and Masturbation, it can leave a void in your life, like when you break up with a dear friend you once spent a lot of time with. Over time, as your brain rewires itself, you’ll discover that life is much more satisfying without Pornography and Masturbation, and healthier pleasurable activities will fill the void that remains. Eventually, you'll find pleasure and and satisfaction in meaningful experiences, such as deepening your personal relationships, living life according to your values, and using your unique abilities to serve Hashem and help others.

"If I am not for myself, who will be for me? But if I am only for myself, who am I? If not now, when?"
feel free to reach out @ ahavayirah@gmail.com