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Hey 04 Apr 2022 19:37 #379569

DeletedUser1211
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Figured if I'm going to do this, I'm going to go all the way. So even though I was not planning on participating in the forum I guess I should give it a shot.

Talking about these things is difficult for me because 1) I hate talking about myself, and 2) this is something incredibly embarrassing for me.
But I'm commiting to changing things and part of that might be involving myself in the social aspect of this website.

Brief introduction:
I've struggled with P and M since my high school days, better some times worse other. When I got married things went really well for awhile--probably mostly due to lack of access and presence of pas baslo. Then when I went to work boredom, stress, and easy access led to a relapse of sorts.
Then my wife caught me

We are not the same people we once were. We are not so locked into our urges that we have no choice. We can choose to give in or choose to win this battle today. We do not want to give in, the pleasure of giving in is false.
With Hashem on our side our victory is inevitable; the only way we can lose is by giving up on playing the game.

Re: Hey 04 Apr 2022 19:43 #379570

strugglingwithmyself OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 327 Karma: 5	Welcome! I'm sure there are people who can give you better advice, for your situation - I would recommend checking out the GYE handbook, and keeping on the forum - a connection to the holy oilam here is only a good thing. And shkoiach on posting - it is exceedingly hard to start, but it shows your tzidkus, that you want to work on yourself. Keep strong!
	I am not trying to be a sober me - I am trying to change me. I'm not here because I fell once, I am here because I sometimes want it to continue forever If you are looking for me on the teen forum, I turned 18 and can no longer access it. Feel free to contact me at strugglingwithmyself613@gmail.com - although probably use a separate email and don't put your name on it, so as to keep safe.

Re: Hey 04 Apr 2022 19:59 #379574

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Chooseurname wrote on 04 Apr 2022 19:37:

Welcome, may this be the beginning of your true path to freedom!
We're sorry to hear about your struggle and we are here to work together as a group to gain a better perspective on this topic and eventually be clean and lead a healthy happy life.

The biggest obstacle to succeeding is not believing you can succeed. The first impediment to overcoming this struggle is not in your genes, your childhood or your environment. If you believe you can succeed and are willing to make the effort, you will find the way out. Absolutely NOTHING stands in the way of a true RATZON.

Take the journey one day at a time. You might have times of sheer elation, times of utter frustration and times of vulnerability when you’ll think that all your success might evaporate. Buckle up and get ready for the journey of a lifetime!

"If I am not for myself, who will be for me? But if I am only for myself, who am I? If not now, when?"
feel free to reach out @ ahavayirah@gmail.com

Last Edit: 04 Apr 2022 19:59 by davidt.

Re: Hey 04 Apr 2022 23:16 #379587

Whatamithinking OFFLINE Senior Boarder Posts: 42 Karma: 2	What happened between you and your wife?

Re: Hey 05 Apr 2022 11:25 #379611

Hashem Help Me Current streak: 2918 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 4070	Welcome. It should be with hatzlocha!
	Feel free to contact me at michelgelner@gmail.com My threads: Lessons Learned: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/335248-Lessons-Learned My Story and G-d Bless GYE: guardyoureyes.com/forum/17-Balei-Battims-Forum/303036-My-story-and-G-d-bless-GYE