Welcome, Guest

Falling and getting up over and over again.
(0 viewing) 
Welcome to our forum! Introduce yourself here (anonymously, of course) and get a warm welcome from the rest of the community!
  • Page:
  • 1

TOPIC: Falling and getting up over and over again. 275 Views

Falling and getting up over and over again. 25 Aug 2021 15:53 #371895

  • jewman
  • Current streak: 2 days
  • OFFLINE
  • Fresh Boarder
  • Posts: 1
  • Karma: 1
Hello everyone! This is my first post on the forum. I've been a GYE member for about 2 years or so, trying to quit masturbation, falling and getting up again. Although I do watch porn occasionally, but not often. If anyone has any solutions or suggestions, feel free to reply. Thanks.

Re: Falling and getting up over and over again. 25 Aug 2021 19:58 #371898

  • davidt
  • OFFLINE
  • Platinum Boarder
  • Posts: 1800
Just by starting to post here, you're already going in the right direction!

When you're trying to reach your goal on your own, it's easy to slack off. Often, when we don't reach our goals, it's not because of any dramatic reason but because life can be distracting and gets in the way at times. But when you have someone supporting you, it increases your commitment to your goal. Knowing that you're going to report back to someone about your progress can make you much more motivated to stay on track.

Here's an idea:
Write a contract with yourself to follow your plan for a set period of time (e.g.30 days) and sign and date it. Including some incentives and fines can also help to solidify your commitment.
Here's an example:
"I hereby commit to refrain from P&M for the next
30 days, and to avoid any cues or behaviors that might lead to it and update my progress each day using the GYE reflection tool. I also commit to installing a good filter on my phone within the next seven days. If I'm successful, I'll celebrate by buying something good on Amazon for $100. If I act out with P&M, I'll donate $10 for every day I’m unsuccessful to a charity I normally don’t contribute to.

Making a solid commitment shows that you are totally serious about quitting P&M. When you adopt this attitude, you're more likely to overcome your struggle despite any turbulence.

Keep on posting and stay connected.. 
"If I am not for myself, who will be for me? But if I am only for myself, who am I? If not now, when?"
feel free to reach out @  ahavayirah@gmail.com
  • Page:
  • 1
Time to create page: 0.35 seconds

Are you sure?

Yes