while researching a potential new hire i typed in her name and an austrian woman with the same name came up.  she had posted many pictures for herself in all kinds of ways.  on the side of the page there were other people associated with her.  one of them was very provocative.  i found myself drawn  into searching for them on the internet and looking for other places that they posted themselves.  sitting at my computer at work gets very boring and unfulfilling and this became more exciting, trying to find more places where they were and more outrageous pictures.      

Welcome. Lets face it. Most of us that have fallen in will agree that we were looking for excitement and escape from the boring and/or upsetting realities of life. The flashing lights, the rush of adrenalin, the physical and hormonal sexual reactions to viewing this stuff along with the eventual release that usually comes next are more vibrant than real life (or so we mistakenly think). However, remind yourself that its like cotton candy. It looks so big, colorful and sweet, but in reality there is (almost) nothing there.