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TOPIC: my problems 28956 Views

Re: my problems 11 May 2017 11:11 #312874

You can email me anytime though I cannot guarantee when I will answer 
(i think gs might be able to help you more than me)
my thread:guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/300426-I-will-make-it-bh" option="guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/300426-I-will-make-it-bh">I will make it b"h











very important thread: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21" option="guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21">FEEL THE HUGS!!!

Re: my problems 11 May 2017 13:18 #312878

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I emailed you

Re: my problems 11 May 2017 19:40 #312914

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so i fell this morning and as is well known the hardest part is getting back up after the fall just for that its not worth it guys hang in there i'll be back (am back) stronger than before hopefully with more tools
Formerly mikestruggling I just bought a truck. l hang out in the trailer and G-d drives. 
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Re: my problems 11 May 2017 20:45 #312916

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AAYYY!  I know the feeling all too well.

Sorry for you.
When you dust yourself off and are ready to take on the great come back, first, do some soul searching and see what lead you astray. I know with me, acting out doesn't surge out of nowhere. It always was brewing under the surface for a while. 
What were the causes?
How can I plan better?
What emergency plan do I have in place in the event I think I am gonna act out real soon?

When you return with intelligent changes you feel better 'cause there is a legitimate reason why this time should be better.  
You yourself will be much more excited and cautiously confident, than when you just boomerang back with good intentions.
Hatzlocho!

Re: my problems 14 May 2017 11:59 #313020

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so i slipped very far last night and i was torn my body wanted one thing my mind another thing then i chapped that if my mind really wants not to act out there are things which i can do so i called my mentor who was in middle of shabbos but i left a message and knew i would be held accountable it worked bh
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Re: my problems 14 May 2017 13:21 #313022

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Great story.
You also learned an important lesson that you can draw on for the future.
Even when you are in the midst of a bitter battle there is what to do to save yourself. 
Here, you just called your mentor. He couldn't even talk to you and you made it.

Re: my problems 15 May 2017 18:39 #313205

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hi,
i'm bh feeling better these days my meds are kicking in 
i still get anxious but i'm now learning other tools to release tension
hopefully that will help me stay stopped
i also now have a larger support group to reach out to
once again i'm so grateful to all of you who reply thank or even just read my posts
and of course as HHM said god bless gye
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Re: my problems 16 May 2017 04:26 #313259

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Nice to hear things are going better. It's time you start to realize you are part of that support team to. You will iyh help many struggling "mikes".
Feel free to contact me at michelgelner@gmail.com

My threads: Lessons Learned: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/335248-Lessons-Learned

                    My Story and G-d Bless GYE: guardyoureyes.com/forum/17-Balei-Battims-Forum/303036-My-story-and-G-d-bless-GYE

Re: my problems 16 May 2017 17:18 #313321

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my therapist (chassidish guy speaks only yiddish and hebrew) told me to go to SA to help with loneliness and guilt
the chiddush is that SA is not only for staying sober
let's see if his helps we'll keep you posted
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Re: my problems 16 May 2017 17:26 #313323

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Nice!
So after all that you went with the fourth opinion
By the way its totally true.
The 12 steps and the fellowship are more about gaining emotional sobriety than stopping to act out.
Be in touch with me, I am here to help. In any way I can.

Re: my problems 16 May 2017 19:31 #313341

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I totally second that, SA gives so much more than just stopping to act out or staying stopped.
You're better than yesterday but not as good as you're gonna be tomorrow. - Harvey

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Re: my problems 17 May 2017 03:09 #313396

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It should be with hatzlocha. Looking forward to hearing how SA will give you the life skills to live a happy and healthy life, marriage, etc.
Feel free to contact me at michelgelner@gmail.com

My threads: Lessons Learned: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/335248-Lessons-Learned

                    My Story and G-d Bless GYE: guardyoureyes.com/forum/17-Balei-Battims-Forum/303036-My-story-and-G-d-bless-GYE

Re: my problems 17 May 2017 19:31 #313464

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so i just got back from SA its nice to see how it woks
a lot of people there are doing or did things much worse than i ever did
and are much worse off like acting out more frequently
i was hoping to meet a bunch of real sober people
that was a letdown
very positive light atmosphere got a temporary sponsor and we'll take it from there
gonna start the twelve steps "vroyshoy magia hashomaimo"
Formerly mikestruggling I just bought a truck. l hang out in the trailer and G-d drives. 
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Re: my problems 17 May 2017 22:47 #313473

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"Keep coming back, it works if you work it."
What works for me: 1) Honesty 2) Meetings 3) 12-step 4) Listening to my Sponsor 5) Not doing what I want to do 6) Inviting the God of my understanding into my life

"I can't do it, God can help." | "Everything I want is on the other side of fear." | "Where there is deprivation there is addiction." | "Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery." | "Stop stopping, start living."

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Re: my problems 17 May 2017 23:13 #313474

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GEVALD UN GESHRIGGEN

its 2 am i cant sleep and i'm about to fall i started slipping

i went for my jog too late its keeping me up its a huge nisayon

raboisai please daven
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