Momo wrote on 24 Jun 2010 06:32:
... but, how can I get passionate about serving G-d?
guardureyes wrote on 24 Jun 2010 09:57:
Ask Him
dov wrote on 25 Jun 2010 06:29:
I got a good deal of passion to serve Hashem once I was convinced that He isn't disgusted with me at all. Think about it...a rebbi, teacher, parent, sister, wife, store clerk, whoever....they have this look of near-puking whenever you see them looking at you. Would you be able to summon up the brenn to give them your all? or to deal with them with 'passion'? I doubt it.
If deep inside I really believ that He "knows " that I am a dang loser, the passion ain't happening. Same goes for my wife in the relationship...kmayim haponim., etc...
If you can please explain, Dov...
What does it take to come to really "know" that (both in our relationship with Hashem and in our relationship with the wife)?
How can we get it into our heads that Hashem and the wife are
really on our side even when (lust aside) things aren't looking so great for us in general?
How can we build that connection to open up and share both with Hashem and with our wife even when things aren't so dandy (and again, I'm not davka talking about lusting, but anything in general) and "know" that we're not gonna get looked at with disgust?
How can we show any sign or hint of failure without feeling like we might arouse negative feelings in our wife?
Does this feeling and recognition come on its own with sobriety, time, and patience?
How do we build that relationship?
How can we be
that open?
That vulnerable...
How can we feel they're more approachable?
Thank you!