Unrelated but it's on TornosRuphus:
Some of you may have noticed that I'm learning Avodah Zarah, the gemorah on daph 20a [referenced by Reb MT [url=http://www.guardyoureyes.org/forum/index.php?topic=5273.msg139138#msg139138]here[/url]] says that one is prohibited from giving "chen" to Aku"m, in other words one should not glorify Aku"m. the gemorah then relates that Rabbi Akiva once saw the wife of TornosRuphus, he spit, laughed and cried. He spit because she came from a blemished droplet, laughed because he saw that eventually he will marry her, and cried for her beauty* that will eventually waste away in the earth [We are men of nature we are made from the earth, at the end of my eighty I'll return to the dirt[sup]Matisyahu[/sup]].
The gemorah in Nedarim 50b [right on top] mentions this woman, and Rashi explains:
A nobleman whose name was Ruphus who would constantly pester Rabi Akiva through words of Torah, Rabi Akiva would always defeat him though and each time the nobleman would be shamed. He came [home] and told his wife, she said I'll butter him up and seduce him, because she was extremely beautiful. So she came to him and uncovered her legs. Rabi Akiva spit, laughed and cried. So she said to him, why did you do these things? He replied, I spit because you come from a blemished droplet, and I cried because your beauty will eventually waste away in the earth. He wouldn't tell her why he laughed, until she persisted and he admitted that he sees that she will marry him eventually. She asked him, is it still possible for me to become a mensch [although I doubt she used that term]? He said yes. She went and converted; after her husband died she married Rabi Akiva and brought him great riches.
Tosafos says almost the same thing, however according to Tosafos, she didn't "come to him and uncover her legs" but "got dressed up and went before Rabi Akiva" [this is an important difference, because as mentioned, Reb MT references the second part of this Gemorah in Avodah Zarah, where the Gemorah asks, how was Rabi Akiva permitted to look at her? And the gemorah answers that he caught a glimpse when he turned a corner. Accordingly, coming "before him" would be more accurate than "going to him"]. Another difference in Tosafos, that he didn't break down and admit why he was laughing, which lets us understand how come she was permitted to convert [whereas according to Rashi she "went" and converted, Rabi Akiva wouldn't do it for her]. Another difference "She left [we can take this to mean, she left her husband], converted, and brought him a lot of money and was married to him". The gemorah in Kiddushin daph 7a says that while usually the husband has to pay the wife and that constitutes the marriage "Kiddushin", if the husband is greatly respected then the wife can pay him, and that constitutes the marriage, according to Tosafos, perhaps that's what the money was all about.
And finally, the Gemorah in Nedarim 50a relates that Rabi Akiva, right after his marriage [while he was still a bigger Am HaAretz than any one of us here at GYE] lived in great poverty and promised his wife that if only he had the money, he would get her a "Jerusalem of Gold"!
The gemorah in Shabbos 59a-b relates that Rabi Akiva actually ended up getting a "Jerusalem of Gold" for his wife. The sefer Shivim Temarim [end of siman 42] asks that according to halacha, Rabi Akiva was not obligated to fulfill the "promise" that a dreaming Am HaAretz had made years before, taking into account that only special women wore "Cities of Gold" [see Shabbos], and they were an impoverished couple with no money, status, or anything, the promise was so absurd at the time, that it was not at all binding, if so, why did Rabi Akiva come through and get the "Jerusalem of Gold" for his wife?
According to the next page in Nedarim, that Rabi Akiva married another woman [and note that Rashi says she waited for HER husband to die, not for Rabi Akiva's wife], and she brought him lots of cash, we can understand that Rachel, the first wife, may have felt that Rabi Akiva will now ignore her and spend all his time with the new pretty, rich wife. To show that he still loved her, he used some of his newfound cash, and got her a gift, that is still famous today!
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* It is interesting to note, that at the end of Makkos, upon seeing the destruction of the temple [see, it IS related] the sages cried while Reb Akiva laughed. When asked about it he replied that he laughed because he foresaw the eventual Nechama.
Upon learning this Gemara though, we may ask, if he was capable of oth, laughing and crying, why didn't he at least first cry for the churban and then laugh for the nechama.
We can answer in two ways. A. the ecstasy of the geulah was so real to him, that it seemed a total waste to cry for the churban when the nechama is so close at hand, and so exciting! B. Like Reb Dov said over
here, the churban is really not a problem when taken into context that it's paving the way for geulah [see also what I wrote [url=http://www.guardyoureyes.org/forum/index.php?topic=4337.msg142878#msg142878]here[/url]].